Social Media Has Ruined Dating

Thanks To Social Media, Dating Has Become A Real Challenge For A Lot Of People

Get out of my DMs and talk to me in person!

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It's 2019 and we are relying on our phones now more than ever. Sure, it can be helpful to have the internet at our fingertips. Within a matter of minutes, I can fill up my online shopping cart, order food to be delivered (so much love for Postmates), and see what all of my friends are up to on Instagram. There's an app for everything these days, but when it comes to relationships, most of them can do more harm than good.

Girls, how many times have you put a selfie on your snap story and had boys swipe up and respond with those heart eye emojis? Yeah, you know exactly what I'm talking about. Those same guys would never have the guts to tell you how nice you look in person. You know why? Because social media allows us to hide behind a screen. Behind our phones, we are free to say whatever we please without the same fear we feel in face-to-face conversations.

Not only can we hide behind our profiles, but we are also unable to exhibit our best qualities. Sure ladies, that selfie you posted on Instagram is gorgeous, but it says nothing about your amazing character. You might have the biggest heart, be super friendly, and have a passion for writing but those are things that aren't always super evident on your profile. To make things worse, we squeal with delight when that cute guy from economics class likes your picture. We read into the absolute dumbest things regarding likes, comments, and shares, and it's ridiculous. To him, it could be a simple double tap, he might think you're cute or is simply returning the favor (a like for a like). To the girl who probably reads too far into things, you might misinterpret that like to think he likes you. And that's merely the beginning of communication problems social media brings to the dating world...

Not showing someone's true character on social media can also be a problem in the opposite direction. They might look nice on their Facebook page, but can be a complete jerk in person (or a catfisher, there I said it). As I said, you literally know a mere fraction about a person on social media, yet that's what we base everything off of. I mean, look at Tinder. It's a dating app that generates matches based off of appearances! How superficial.

To make matters worse, clear, effective communication is nearly impossible to master through social media. Especially in relationships. Everything we say can be misconstrued and just completely misunderstood. Snapchats disappear, Twitter limits our characters, and Instagram stories expire. These platforms might make communication faster and helpful when it comes to distance, but it certainly will never beat face-to-face conversations. And that's pretty key when it comes to having a healthy relationship.

Lastly, social media allows us to be incredibly petty and sneaky. We care way too much. If you have a Twitter, let's be honest.. you know you've probably sent out a petty tweet that you sent out for someone to see on purpose. Ah, yes, the subtweet. Don't even get me started on the infamous "finsta." We think these are outlets and ways to spill our guts but realistically, it's pretty immature (no worries, I'm guilty of it all too). Plus, you know you've heard of those relationships where the significant other goes through and unfollows/blocks people they don't want talking to his/her girlfriend/boyfriend on that person's phone or stalking their Snapchat map location. That's a whole new level of insecurity and lack of trust.

So where does that leave us? Currently, we obsess over the number of likes we get, we thrive on the comments and basically gush over all of the direct messages. Thanks to social media, we're stuck as social media acts as an occasional facade. Let's face it, we're insecure, and social media isn't helping us in any way. So let's put the phones down. Let's talk to people face to face and have a real genuine conversation. Let's be honestly invested in our relationships without allowing Snapchat or Instagram to ruin things for us.

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10 Rappers Whose Lyrics Will Take Your Instagram Captions To The Next Level

Make your life easy by choosing a caption that's already been written for you.

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Finding the perfect caption for you Instagram post is something everyone struggles with. On the contrary, the best rappers in the industry right now seem to have no problem with it. Whether it be Cardi B or Kanye West, you can always count on fire captions. Taken from the rappers themselves, here are the best rap lyrics for Instagram captions.

1. Travis Scott

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  • "It's summertime, why they tryna throw shade?"
  • "Rollin' rollin' rollin' got me stargazin'"
  • "I got 'em stage diving out the nosebleeds"
  • "Anything can happen at the night show"
  • "This right here is astronomical"
  • "Valet park when I pull up in the ride"
  • "Pick up the phone, baby, I know you're home, baby"
  • "Oh my, what a wonderful time"
  • "She said 'where we goin?' I said 'the moon'"
  • "I been up sleepless late nights"
  • 2. Migos

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    • "Walk it like I talk it"
    • "In the kitchen wrist moving like a stir fry"
    • "Put my mind on it, put my grind on it"
    • "We live like sopranos"
    • "Diamonds on my wrist stay drippin"
    • "Addin' up checks, no minus"
    • "I can buy that car, I know that you can't"
    • "No human being, I'm immortal"
    • "Walk in the buildin', they start applaudin'"
    • "Versace, Versace, Versace, Versace"

    3. Cardi B

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    • "I like texts from my exes when they want a second chance"
    • "I went from dollar bills, now poppin' rubber bands"
    • "Why would I hop in some beef? When I could just hop in the Porsche"
    • "You know where I'm at, you know where I be"
    • "These expensive, these is red bottoms"
    • "I don't dance now, I make money moves"
    • "It's not a threat it's a warning, be careful with me"
    • "Poured out my whole heart to a piece of sh*t"
    • "Karma for you is gon' be who you end up with"

    4. Drake

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    • "This a Rollie, not a stopwatch, sh*t don't ever stop"
    • "I only love my bed and my mama I'm sorry"
    • "I get it how I live it, I live it how I get it"
    • "No new friends"
    • "Drinking every night because we drink to my accomplishments"
    • "This sh*t got me in my feelings"
    • "With your phone out, gotta hit them angles"
    • "My ex asked me, 'Where you movin'?' I said, 'On to better things'"
    • "My team good, we don't really need a mascot"
    • "Got new money, got new problems, got new enemies"

    5. Nicki Minaj

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    • "Imma keep it moving, be classy and graceful"
    • "In my kingdom, with my Timbs on"
    • "Uh, yo, watch your man, then you should watch your mouth"
    • "At least you took an L off your bucket list"
    • "Defend my honor, protect my pride"
    • "But to live doesn't mean you're alive"
    • "She just mad 'cause he never bought her ice like me"
    • "I fly with the stars in the skies"
    • "They paintin' me out to be the bad guy"
    • "All these b*tches is my sons"

    6. Mac Miller

    Mac Miller

    • "My regrets look just like a text I shouldn't send"
    • "Driving with my eyes close, missing all the signs"
    • "I'm a monster with the heart of a lion, divide and conquer"
    • "I got a bone to pick like roses"
    • "I'll do anything for a way out of my head"
    • "Your love is not too kind to me"
    • "Yeah, I got a bad attitude"
    • "No matter where life takes me, find me with a smile"
    • "Imma give you what you came for"
    • "I don't know 'bout you, but me, I'm important, I'm so gorgeous"

    7. A$AP Rocky 

    A$AP Rocky

    • "Same shit, different day"
    • "I got three phones: business, conversation, and relation"
    • "What the face say to the fist?"
    • "I look for ways to say 'I love you', but I ain't into makin' love songs"
    • "Paranoia got me losing all my z's"
    • "Make no mistakes, it's all a leap of faith for love"
    • "She ain't a stranger to the city life"
    • "Can't forget that I'm golden, can't forget where I'm going"
    • "Riding by the rules, I'll abide by it soon"
    • "Ain't a killer so don't kill the vibe"

    8. Kanye West

    Kanye West

    • "Yeah u so mother thick"
    • "Ball so hard, let's get faded"
    • "That sh*t cray"
    • "I'm tripping off the power"
    • "All of my kindness, is taken for weakness"
    • "I'm lookin' for the one have you seen her?"
    • "Don't let me get in my zone"
    • "Let's get lost tonight"
    • "Sun don't shine in the shade, bird can't fly in a cage"
    • "Reach for the stars so if you fall you land on a cloud"
    • "No you're not perfect but you're not your mistakes"

    9. A$AP Ferg

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    • "Gucci down to the socks"
    • "My jewelry glistening why I'm always chilly"
    • "I'm a one night savage"
    • "Put in work, put 'em in the dirt"
    • "Fergy be mobbin' all day"
    • "Ferg is the name"
    • "I'm on a new level"
    • "Don't pray for me pray for the weak"
    • "I was only 8 years old, watching Nick at Nite"
    • "I was fly like a bird"

    10. Lil Wayne 

    Lil Wayne

    • "Real G's move in silence like lasagna"
    • "I speak the truth but I guess that's a foreign language to y'all"
    • "Okay you're a goon, but what's a goon to a goblin?"
    • "I got some weight on my shoulders, to me it's like feathers"
    • "I am more animal than the zoo allow"
    • "Money talks, bullsh*t walks"
    • "Every night's a long night, every day's a holiday"
    • "I'm a cool cat, but I'm on life nine"
    • "Haters can't see me, nose bleed seats"


    No matter what the occasion, it's always good to have creative Instagram captions on hand. Nobody knows how to make clever captions than rappers themselves. Whether you need creative caption for throwing shade at someone, or you have used only emojis for your past 5 Instagram pictures, rap lyrics make the perfect caption.

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    13 Reasons I Won't Accept Your Friend Request

    It's not you, it's me. But also it's a little bit you.

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    Let me start by saying I am a very friendly person. And I would love to connect on social media if we know each other rather vaguely, have a ton of real-life mutual friends, and maybe even if we just met.

    I have over 1,000 friends on Facebook. Believe it or not, I know all of them at least a little bit. But here's the thing: I use social media to share pictures and life updates with my family and my friends, not random people. I'm not looking to use Facebook, Instagram, or Snapchat to meet people.

    There are other apps for that and I'm just not interested in meeting people online. I'm perfectly happy with my current network, so if you fit the description of any of the following, I probably won't even think twice about deleting your friend or follow request.

    1. Your account is clearly fake.

    If your profile picture appears to be a stock photo, I don't wanna be your friend. Hiding behind fake photos is never a good sign. Also, if none of your cover/profile pictures or Instagrams have any comments or likes, I won't give you a chance.

    2. You're an influencer.

    This is how it's gonna go: You follow me. I follow you. You unfollow me to boost your following to follow ratio. I don't have time for these games and if I were interested in whatever you're promoting, I'd follow you first.

    3. Your page/feed has hateful content on it.

    I try as hard as possible to make social media as positive as can be. Your controversial posts are detracting from my experience.

    4. You look like you could kidnap/hurt me.

    There's a specific serial killer vibe certain people just give off.

    5. I don't know you.

    This goes for any social media. If I don't know you, I have no interest in being "friends" online. If I wanted to meet new people, I'd try an app for that. Facebook is just not intended for meeting new people, it's for reconnecting old friends.

    6. You don't go to my school.

    Alright, you caught me. I'd probably accept any Villanova students (who seem legitimate at least). Going to school in the Philly area, I often get requests from students at Drexel, UPenn, and St. Joe's. Look. Maybe we will meet some day at an event or a bar in Philly, but it's not like I'm out and about in Philly all day every day. We'll likely never meet.

    7. We have no mutual friends.

    The odds I actually know you and you have a decent reason to friend request or follow me are slim.

    8. You send a weird DM or message with the friend request.

    You sending a "nice" compliment with the request is not going to intrigue me, it's just uncalled for.

    9. You post way too much.

    Thank goodness for the new "MUTE" feature on Instagram and the "HIDE" and "SNOOZE" features on Facebook.

    10. You just don't have a profile picture.

    How can I trust that? I'm not great at names, so sometimes I need to see a face too.

    11. You post any political content.

    Your 10 paragraph caption or post is likely not going to change my opinions, it's just aggressive.

    12. I work with you or know you in a professional manner.

    I can't tell you how many times I've been friend requested by bosses of summer jobs or co-workers. Unless I got really close with you through work and we're both within a certain age range, I don't want to be "friends" with you online. There's a reason LinkedIn is so popular. I don't want you to see the posts I share with my family and friends not because I'm hiding anything, but let's just say you don't fit my "target audience."

    13. Your profile picture is a picture of your (or maybe someone else's but who's to say) cat or dog.

    Back to point 10, if we don't know each other well, I'm gonna have to see an actual picture of you to remember you!

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