Singleness: A Time To Pursue God

Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” -Genesis 2:18

Are you wondering if you'll ever find the Godly man you will one day marry?

The time of singleness may be a little long for some, but the good news? God is in the waiting.

It's completely okay to be single. Even if your family, friends, and co-workers keep asking you when you are going to get a boyfriend. This period of time that you are single can literally change your life. My time of singleness came when I needed it the most. I strayed from God in certain relationships. I would rather run back to God by myself than have a boy tell me to. It was my own choice, and I'm thankful that God pulled me back into his arms, even if I felt lonely. God had this plan for me from the beginning. I needed to have time alone to remember what I was worth and that God was greater than anything I could ever imagine.

Of course, at the time, all I focused on was how much I disliked being single. Nobody to run to, nobody to talk to. But in reality, God was teaching me the most important lesson I have learned so far in life. When we fall down and feel like we need help, who do we run to first? I can tell you that I learned that it should never be anyone but God. Sure, when you meet your best friend, it's easy to run to them for everything. However, nobody can comfort you like God himself.

In this time of singleness, I also learned patience and self-worth. It took me being single for a year to finally realize that a relationship doesn't define me. Neither would my next boyfriend. What defines me? God defines me. That's it. We are precious sons and daughters of the King. That is our identity. I remember praying for my future husband and feeling ashamed for trying for so long to make my past relationships "perfect." But I learned that even if I had some regrets about who I chose to date, they all taught me things. In those failures, were lessons I still use today.

Ladies, if he isn't pushing you towards God now, chances are he won't... ever. Maybe this is a chance for you to have a time of singleness to realize your worth. Yes, it's hard when you know what you want and you planned your future to be perfect, but God's plan is always better. Even if you do somehow get your plan to work out, His plan will prevail. You might not be ready for it, but joy will come from it.

If you are single, dig into the word. Let God transform your life, your thoughts, and your mindset. Don't wait for a guy to come and ruin what God has for you at this moment. You are exactly where you should be. God hasn't forgotten about you.

"Wait for the Lord; be strong, and let your heart take courage; wait for the Lord!" Psalm 27:14