Understand that not being in a relationship is okay. Stop caring so much that you're single. Stop placing that lable on yourself. Relationships and singleness does not define a person.
I cannot even begin to say how many times I hear one of my single friends complain about being single. "Oh I just want this guy", or "I'm never going to find my prince charming". Well, you're probably right. Because in a relationship, "prince charming" or a "princess" is so unrealistic. relationships have fights. They have disagreements. They have ups as well as downs. It's not a movie scene each and every day.
That doesn't mean that relationships can't be absolutely amazing, because trust me, they can be something so wonderful, however, having high such high, unrealistic expectations only will lead to disappointments. A relationship takes two people working together. Two people doing acts each day that say "I love you" rather than just "I love me". A relationship is a give and take, and I am so over my friends (mostly girlfriends) placing such high expectations on a guy. "Well, he needs to text me first every single day". I'm sorry, but that is so insane to me. Yes, chivalry is a thing, however, a guy wants to feel wanted and needed just as much as a girl. Don't be afraid to call or text him first too. Trust me, he will love it.
Okay, off my sidetracked rant. yes, being in a relationship can rock your socks off, however, SINGLENESS IS ALSO A GIFT. Don't take it for granted. Each part of life is a season. Some seasons we tend to enjoy more than others, but each season teaches us something about ourselves, and ultimately leads us closer to where we are supposed to be.
Single people- y'all get to do so many things that you can't necessarily do while in a relationship. And no, I am not talking about living it up at the bar each weekend. I am talking about truly finding what you enjoy. Expanding yourself. Creating a more "well-rounded" you. This is helping shape you for the someone you will be with. And that is such a gift. Make yourself interesting. Grow closer to God. Create lasting friendships. Workout. Enjoy finding yourself without someone else in the picture. Stop constantly revolving your life around searching for "the one". Instead, enjoy the process!! It's amazing how much you will grow if you embrace it.
Don't look for someone you want, in the wrong places. For instance, if you want a Godly man, don't go searching for him in a bar. Chances are, he isn't there. (This isn't true all of the time, but 9.5 times out of 10, you won't find him there.) Also, the best advice that I have ever been given is to be the person that you are looking for, is looking for. Let that sink in. Let it hit ya deep. Because how true is that? The person you're looking for may also be looking for someone. Try and be that person.This doesn't mean to constantly search for someone. This simply means that you should allow yourself to become a better person in your time of singleness.
Being single isn't something to complain about. Sure, it sucks sometimes and I get that. However, use this season of your life to better yourself. Don't let being single drag you down to someone you said you would never be. Instead, allow it to help you grow into a better person. Embrace the singleness!
