Many complain about being single.

Many are caught up with finding the one.

But maybe what we really need to be focusing on during our singleness is ourselves...

1. Self-confidence

You alone should know your self-worth and your self-value. Your worth and confidence should never come from another person. You should never give someone the power to tell you what you are and what you aren’t. Don’t ever let anyone limit you or define you. You alone should know you are beautiful, inspirational, strong and worthwhile.

Best time to know yourself is when you are single. Build your own self-confidence, tell yourself truth and encouragement. Know yourself. Know your beauty. Know your worth.

2. Happiness

Find a hobby, job, or activity that makes you happy. You should never rely on your happiness to come from your boyfriend. Of course, they can and should add to your happiness, but a person shouldn't be the sole source of it. If a partner becomes your sole happiness, they will eventually feel a weight and the need to satisfy you. They are only human. People mess up, make mistakes, and have so much they can’t control. There is happiness found in so much. Don’t make them the center of your happiness. You will be seeking their time and will only be seeking for them satisfy you. Find it elsewhere, where it doesn’t depend on a single person.

3. Satisfaction in life

You should first be satisfied with your life without a partner. So, when you find that person, they are an even greater blessing to your life. How much more would a relationship thrive if both people within the relationship are confident, independent, and happy people who CHOOSE to be together?

Not because they need it, but because they want it. They are not seeking to take, seek fulfillment, and be served, but are both there to offer and give towards the relationship.

4. Personal beliefs

You should find your faith on your own first. Ultimately, no one can tell you what you should and shouldn’t believe. It's an internal thing, it's a spiritual thing. People can only influence you because, at the end of the day, you make your own decision. You chose on your own. You should seek for yourself so you can truly believe knowing it wasn’t someone else's choice made for you. Because in the end, it's your life and it affects you.

Personally, I am single and not ready to be in a relationship yet either.

I am working on all of these things and will continue to seek them until I feel confident in myself and who I am. I want to be at 100% so that I can give and offer so much more to my next relationship!

It may take days, months, or even years. But I truly believe, it’s worth it to find myself and focus on me!