Just because she is dressed like that doesn't mean she is "asking for it." Just because she let you pay for her dinner doesn't mean she wants something when you drop her off. Just because she was nice to you and conversed with you until 2 a.m. doesn't mean you get some sort of "prize" or that she wants you to be her boyfriend. So please, stop holding her to something that you assumed she signed up for because she didn't. She's just living her life and she does not owe you anything.
I've witnessed so many instances -- in real life and on social media -- where women are seemingly put in a position where they ultimately owe a man or someone something if they act a certain way. It's almost like we live in a world where we always have to have something in return, that there is always an automatic reason for something and it isn't just that. Why must there always have to be something to exchange in the end? Whether that be a date, a phone number or a hook up. For one, I've seen a woman be given a hard time for her appearance. Either she is dressed like a so-called prostitute because clearly, she wants something. If she goes out wearing a tight mini skirt and a crop top with five-inch heels, then that obviously means that she is asking for something and it's her fault for getting cat-called on the street, right?
Wrong.
A woman is allowed to wear siren red lipstick, short shorts and a tight tank top because she wants to, because it makes her feel beautiful and her most vibrant self. She didn't wake up and decide to wear it with the thought in her mind that she later owed someone something for looking that way. And if someone assaults her for dressing the way she was and accuses her of "asking for it," then she is allowed to say, "No," and to stand up for herself.
Dressing in skin tight clothing or revealing ensembles doesn't mean that women are seeking that specific kind of attention -- and she shouldn't be punished for expressing herself. She should not be obliged to say, "Yes," to a man who convinces her that she wore that outfit for a negative reason that she did not sign up for. Get that thought out of your head.
Just because a woman vented to you about something that was bothering her, doesn't mean that she owes you something in the end. If you truly cared, then you wouldn't put that kind of pressure on her and make her feel uncomfortable as you say something along the lines of, "I was there for you, when nobody else was. How can you be like this?" OK? How can she be like what? Simply denying your romantic advances because she can? You're not suddenly entitled or deserving of whatever you want because you listened to her. So you listened to her a few times and was there for her. That doesn't mean that you are her knight and shining armor. It's called simply being a good friend. If a woman goes to you for help, but then rejects your advances later on, do not use that to guilt trip her. Do not get mad at her and then assume she's stuck up. She's allowed to say no. I've witnessed (and witnessed first hand) guys who have defended girls, and then automatically assumed that they could be their boyfriends or get what they want just because they did a good human thing. And then when the girl declined them, they switched and became very mean.
Or what about when a man is nice to a woman on a first date, treats her with respect, laughs at her jokes, makes her feel special, but becomes terrifying at the end of the night? A woman is allowed to say no to any and all advances no matter how much he treated her like a princess earlier.
Bottom line, women do not owe you anything. They did not sign some contract stating that they will give in to anything just because someone was kind to them. But it's funny because in the end, that's not really kindness, is it? It's important to remember that even the nicest people may not have the best intentions and it's always 100 percent OK to say no to someone who is making you feel uncomfortable -- no matter how "friendly" they seemed in the beginning. Women have the right to say, "No."
