Self-Care Is The New Self-Esteem

Self-Care Is The New Self-Esteem

The concept of self-care has been getting lot of attention lately, but I’m guessing there are still a lot of you who aren’t quite sure what it means...

Up until a few months ago I had never even heard of self-care, but now I’m all but obsessed with the idea.

The World Health Organization defines self-care as “what people do for themselves to establish and maintain health, and to prevent and deal with illness.” This can pertain to hygiene, nutrition, lifestyle and more. The part referring to preventing and dealing with illness might seem a bit intense for the average person, so this is how I define self-care: care, by you and for you. I also like to call it the new self-esteem.

Self-care means looking after yourself and being the best you that you can be—emotionally, physically and spiritually. I think that is one of the most important things that individuals can do for themselves.

In the past, a lot of emphasis has been placed on using self-esteem to promote self-healing. The thought here is that having more confidence in yourself and your own abilities can help you feel better in general, but building up self-esteem is not an easy thing to do.

It’s especially hard if you don’t have your own little self-support system built up. This is just one of the reasons why self-care is incredible. The self-care approach pertains to nearly all aspects of your life and provides a much more balanced way of looking after yourself.

Rather than forcing feelings of positivity or instilling fake and temporary feelings of confidence (because let’s be honest, this is pretty much what happens when you try to boost your self-esteem), you can choose to be understanding of yourself and your limitations with self-care. Self-care actually stresses self-compassion. Sometimes giving yourself a break can be more helpful than anything else.

I’m not trying to hate on self-esteem. Building self-esteem is great because if successful, it can help you love yourself. But self-care takes loving yourself to a whole new level.

It is important to comfort yourself and give yourself a pat on the back once in a while. You deserve it. So if you believe it, say it and build-up your self-esteem, but then take it a step further with self-care.

Not only do you deserve to hear the great things you’re thinking about yourself, but you deserve to actually listen to the great things that others are saying about you. Write them down, tuck them away somewhere and don’t forget them.

Self-care is truly a wonderful journey to embark on, but it’s not always an easy thing. You are making a promise to take care of yourself, even when you don’t feel like it. Sometimes this can take the form of giving in and letting yourself go, because it allows you to be honest with yourself. This might look like having a bad day and acknowledging it, rewarding yourself with a quick nap or not going out if you aren’t feeling up to it.

More often than not the choices you make in self-care are meant to pick you up.

This might look like having a bad day and acknowledging that tomorrow will be better, rewarding yourself with a few moments of peace before you cross something else off on your to-do list, or taking some time to do something for yourself, by yourself, rather than meeting up with friends.

Self-care occurs in a variety of forms and it looks different for everyone. We aren’t robots, and it’s okay to struggle sometimes, as long as we make sure we’re picking ourselves up at the end of the day.

If anyone is ever struggling to find a little self-love, self-care or self-compassion, I recommend scrolling through the self-care tag on Tumblr. It’s filled with great tips, ideas, quotes, and of course some really cool pictures pertaining to self-care.

Personally, I like to scroll through Wentworth Miller’s Facebook page (you might recognize him from "Prison Break"). He has recently embarked on a very public self-care journey and he posts about what his self-care looks like for each day. He has personally struggled with depression and suicidal thoughts and has begun opening up about this to the public. It’s truly inspiring to get to witness his journey.

In any case, your self-care journey is what you make of it, so make it your own and take care.

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How We Can Help Millennials With Mental Illnesses

Make Mental Health Less Taboo.

Over the course of my childhood, there have been people here and there who, including myself, have suffered from various mental illnesses. But recently, as I began college, I noticed more and more people having to deal with severe mental issues. Why is this happening? Were they always there and I just noticed? Or are we at that age where our brains are put under so much pressure that they cannot handle it without some type of medication?

This is a subject that has bothered me for a while. In high school, I had to tip-toe around others to hide that I'm dealing with things like anxiety and depression. But in college, as you are scrolling through your social media accounts, there are many jokes that normalize these mental illnesses. They become those "relatable" memes that everyone "likes." These memes include "funny" captions like "Netflix and Avoid People"

or "Me to me," with Kermit the frog talking to himself about self-destructive behaviors.

Not that comic relief isn't a good thing, but that makes it so normal that people don't understand the actual amount of suffering that happens while you are experiencing mental illnesses. There are "funny" memes where there are fake text messages saying phrases such as "I'm in the middle of a mental breakdown, you? / Just got through a mental breakdown."

While this is light, the main issue isn't addressed. Why are millennials (people approximately 18-early 30s) suffering from these mental illnesses?

My theory is that as we develop into adults, much like a sorting hat, it seems we are each assigned a battle to fight as we develop into who we are supposed to be. Maybe we are healthy children, but the habits we develop as adults cause some type of mental or physical illness.

According to an article for the National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI):

"Millennials are often referred to as the 'anxious generation.' They were the first to grow up with the constant overflow of the Internet and social media. The Internet can make life better, but it can also make life complicated, as Millennials often compare their personal and professional achievements to everyone else’s. This can result in low self-esteem and insecurity."

The article is right about social media causing low self esteem. I know when I was growing from a teen into an adult, I started to want to be friends with certain people because they looked "cool" on Facebook and Instagram. I diminished my achievements because it didn't seem "good enough" to match everyone else's. I'm not saying social media causes that actual chemical imbalance that is a mental illness, but it certainly doesn't help it.

Also, as I said before, maybe it's the fact that we are given more pressure somewhere, starting from the most important year in high school- junior year -and all throughout college when we are trying to figure out our career paths. We have deadlines, are expected to manage our time between rest, work, school, maintaining appearance and a social life. I know for a FACT if you have no social life, and I've had that, it can lead to depression; a socal life is just as important as the other parts of life.

I like to reference the mental and emotional health pyramid, also known as Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs:

The pyramid is not properly taught growing up and should be included in the school health curriculum. Now I'm not saying that knowing all these things will actually deter the medical problem that is mental illness, but it will give you at least an idea of what important factors to focus on in your life. Also, therapy is still a taboo subject. Therapy is not just for people with mental illnesses; it is like having a life coach. And it is all about you. THAT is what needs to be normalized. WHY so many people experience health problems at this age; I'm not a doctor so I don't know, but we can help each other by opening a discussion about it.

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The 5 Best iPhone Fitness Apps

I'm workin' on my fitness.

Turns out, your phone can be used for more than just scrolling through Instagram or endless online shopping (Although, let’s be real, many of us would be fine if that were all it could do). There is a plethora of health and fitness apps on the market, that, when used correctly, can be very beneficial in one’s journey to a healthier lifestyle. If you are anything like me, I am obsessed with finding (cheap) new apps that somehow enhance my life. And when it comes to health and fitness, these are the 5 best ones that I have found so far:

1. Yoga Studio: Mind & Body

Price: $1.99 per month

There are many things to love about Yoga Studio. The session lengths range from 10 minutes to 60 minutes and target specific areas such as balance and flexibility. My favorite thing about the app is the fact that the yoga for beginners is actually possible for a beginner to do. It is challenging enough to be worth it, but not so difficult for a beginner that it is discouraging. The intensity of the sessions goes all the way up to advanced, and there are classes for certain things such as back pain, deep relaxation, and even prenatal yoga. You can also make your own classes by selecting the poses that you like. You can create a yoga schedule on the app and even link it to the apple health app.

2. Fooducate

Price: Free

Fooducate is a fantastic app. You can search for or scan the bar code of almost food item and the Fooducate app will assign that food a grade, ranging from D to A, based on how healthy it is overall. There are detailed explanations as to why certain foods or brands receive that grade, along with all of the nutritional information of that food, and a list of healthier alternatives. You can also track your caloric intake on the app and find free diet tidbits and healthy recipes.

3. Nike+ Run Club

Price: Free

Nike Run Club must be the best app on the market for runners. The most basic quick start feature tracks how far you run and how long it takes, but the app has many more features. It shows you specifics about your route, pace, and splits. There are also guided runs, where you have a coach in your ear, and you can pick a running plan that lasts either 4 weeks, 8 weeks, or up until an upcoming race. The app has challenges and personal achievements. Music can be played through the app.

4. Meal Time

Price: Free, with some recipes premium.

Mealime is a simple app to navigate with a multitude of healthy recipes, most of them free. You set your eating preferences and can build a personalized meal plan or just check out the recipes. The app details the cookware needed along with the ingredients and instructions needed to make the dish. It is easy to save your favorite recipes so that you can cook them again and again.

5. Sworkit: Abs & Core

Price: Free

While it’s mother app, Sworkit: Workouts & Plans, is not free, this mini-version is. You can select if you want to focus on abs or back strength, as well as the duration of the session, which can be anywhere from 5 minutes to an hour. A Person appears on the screen to demonstrate the workouts while a voice-over talks you through it.

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