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We Shouldn't Worry About Societies 'Marriage Timeline' And Should Tie The Knot When WE Feel it's Time

Some couples take 6 years and some couples take 6 months, does it matter?

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We Shouldn't Worry About Societies 'Marriage Timeline' And Should Tie The Knot When WE Feel it's Time
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I have seen many couples get married in the past couple of years and each timeline is their own. Meaning, the time the took before they got engaged and how long until the wedding was all different. Some couples took 4 months and they knew they were meant to be together forever and some took 4 years. But is it our place to judge their relationship and place a timeline on love?

Before I get married, of course, I want the guy I am with to take the time to learn anything and everything about me. However, if I know he's the one for me and I'm the one for him, is there a hidden rule that tells us we have to date for at least a year before he pops the question?

Personally, I think life is too short to spend our time worrying about timelines or how fast or slow things happen. If the feelings are there, then why wait? Why wait to enjoy spending time with the person you want to love forever? We only have one shot at life and if we find the person who we feel we are going to love forever, then is it damaging to wait?

The same principle can be applied when the discussion of how long a couple should be engaged before the wedding. Should the couple wait a year before they get married so they can get used to living with one another? Does it really matter?

I would be so excited to start planning my wedding with the love of my life I could care less about the rules that society places for the time it should take for us to "properly" fall in love.

I hear stories all of the time about couples who say "I knew she was the one for me after a month of dating, so I asked." Those couples I think last the longest. The couples who are spontaneous and follow their own love timeline without the worry of what others think are a goal for me.

When I find the love of my life, and when I know it and he knows it, I want us to write our own love timeline, not base it off of society's timeline for the way our love is supposed to develop.

So, if you're young and you have met the love of your life, why wait? Why worry about the fact that you're only 20 years old or you haven't finished all of your schooling yet. Just freaking do it. Just like Shia says, just do it. Life is too short to worry about whether or not you're doing things right by someone else's standards.

Apply this to every single aspect of your life. Would you rather take the risk and find out it's the most joyous time of your life or hold yourself back and worry because it hasn't quite been the amount of time as everybody recommends?

Honestly, I would have the time of my life, make mistakes, learn from them and possibly have the best time of my life, then ask for permission.

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