Why is it that these two little words are the hardest to say? It's two words—technically three without the conjunction... So why is it that with these minuscule words come such a big meaning?
It seems in all situations, no matter what the apology is for, the minute those words are thrown around, the most impact is made. Where the difficulty comes into play is when, rather than being said, it is withheld. The tough part is figuring out who should technically say it. Then comes the game of who should say it first, why it's said, if it was heartfelt, etc.
I have apologized for more things than I can count. Granted, some were thrown out for the sake of ending an argument and just “clearing the air,” but for the most part, when I say it—even if I know I was wrong and am stubborn and dragging my feet—I will say it. Personally, I think the hardest part is that no two people are the same. Yes, you can hope, plead, and pray that they will apologize and see your side or the other, but none of us are wired the same. Wouldn't it just be easier if we were all the same? Well actually now that I say it out loud, maybe it wouldn't be. Sure, there would be less arguments and misunderstandings... but who wants to basically talk to themselves all day? I know I do not.
Part of what makes "sorry" so hard is the underlying meaning. Yes, it means you probably messed up. Yes, it means you are going to have to show your vulnerable side. Yes, it is not fun to say. Luckily, there is a massive amount of respect that comes with hearing and saying those words.
If we all just took a minute to really drop our own egos and let down the walls, the fear that comes with having to say such words is defeated. There I go again, talking about things that make people vulnerable—make myself vulnerable—but vulnerability is a strength. We have all become accustomed to acting "strong" that we have forgotten that so much of our strength comes with acknowledging our weaknesses. It takes a strong, secure person to recognize their own fault, or “weakness” in a situation which in turn translates to strength.
Next time you say sorry, say it with confidence. Say it like you mean it—even if you don't. Say it, and know that whoever is hearing it and on the receiving end will have more respect for you because of it.
