One word, three letters, s-e-x. Historically, premarital sex was considered taboo; the year is now 2016 and things have changed to say the least. Purity is out and promiscuity is in. From the descriptive nature of song lyrics to on screen PDA, we are taught that sex is as common and meaningless as tying your shoes. It’s not meant to be a hobby, but instead an act of love reserved for your husband or wife. However, virgins are often viewed as being undesirable, outcasts if you will. Sexually active men are referred to as “top-dogs” and women, “experienced.”
Marriage is a commitment not to be taken lightly; it’s a mutual agreement to spend the rest of your lives together. With that being said, you might want to get along with your newfound best friend. Dating is essentially a prolonged interview— as time goes by, you are able to differentiate between that particular candidate’s strengths and weaknesses. Sex only complicates things. The fact of the matter is, if you were to take away the physical aspect of the relationship, would you enjoy that person’s company? It is very important to find commonalities whether that be religion, a shared sense of humor, or similar upbringing. Intimacy can overshadow communication, but without it, you can have those deeper and more meaningful conversations. Sex also has a tendency of making something that shouldn't work, work (and not in a star crossed lovers kinda way). Sex leads to a chemical addiction and breakups cause withdrawal. Have you ever heard “love is blind”? Sexual relations cloud your judgment by creating a need for security and emphasizing a physical attraction; I hate to break it to you, but looks fade.
From an early age, we are trained to be objects of lust. Girls often feel pressured into partaking in such activities due to a lack of self esteem. However, we must realize that our purpose cannot be found in the acceptance of others. It has been scientifically proven that adolescents who choose abstinence are more likely to grow intellectually and socially. Cultivate moments that focus on the heart and soul of a person, and not just their body.
