Throughout life, you will always find an attachment to the people who you spend all of your time with. Oddly enough, you will even miss the people that you didn't ever really talk to. There comes a point in time throughout everyone's life when they have to say goodbye to the friends that they have always known. Whether you are moving, going to college, or transferring schools, here are five things that every person should know:
1. Just because you move away does not mean that you won't to still be friends.
For some odd reason, a lot of people have it in their minds that once
they move away, they will stop being friends with the people back home. I can promise you, this is not true. My best friend is 3 hours away (soon to be 20 hours), and we are still just as good as friends as ever.
2. Even though you stay good friends, you won't talk nearly as much.
This is one of the hardest things for people who move away... They think
that they will talk to their best friend back home every single day.
Sadly folks, I can tell you that talking every day just isn't realistic.
For the first week or two, it might be plausible, but pretty soon, the
long conversations will turn weekly. This is just a part of life. Does this mean that you guys aren't as close? of course not! It actually makes the friendship so much more valuable once you finally do get the time to talk to that friend back home.
3. Don't be afraid to make other friends where you move.
Just because you move away from your solid friend group that doesn't mean that you can't be friends with other people. It's OK to find a best friend. Believe it or not, you can have more than one best friend. I have my best friends here at college, but I also have my best friends back home. It's OK.
4. Cherish your memories
Whether the memories are good or bad, this step is huge. When I first came to the university I am at now, I missed my friends so much. I even missed the people that drove me crazy. I think back on all of the memories, happy times, failures, and "plain" moments, and it makes me so thankful to have the life that I am living. Now, as I am about to transfer 1,000 miles away, all I can think about is the memories that I have made here along with the previous memories from back home.
5. Don't let the fear of losing a friend prevent you from leaving.
If you want to venture away from home far, far away, Do it. Don't be afraid that if you leave, your friend will replace you. Don't be afraid of the lack of communication. I can tell you this, if your friend is holding you back, they aren't really your friend. Yes, it's sad, it's hard, and it can be frustrating, but you only have one beautiful life, and if they are really that special of a friend, they will be there every step of the way.
So as the great Hannah Montana once sang,
"I'm moving on, letting go, holding on to tomorrow. I've always got the memories while I'm finding out who I'm gonna be. We might be apart but I hope you'll always know, you'll be with me wherever I go."
