Call me old fashioned, but I enjoy the idea of going out on a date to go see a nice movie with your significant other. Sadly, that does not seem to be the thought that comes to mind when several other people my age think of dating. According to several of today’s youth, dating, and even marriage are too much of a commitment, and most importantly are boring. People, guys and girls alike, seem to hop from person to person without giving thought to their actions. At this rate, dating, and probably even marriage could become obsolete in a few years.
Some blame can be put on the media. Movies, music, and advertisements glorify one-night stands and multiple partners. Believe it or not, the youth will follow almost anything the media tells them. As a result you have people treating those of the opposite or same sex as mere objects. Some use relationships to show off their “significant other” to their friends. Others will plainly use them for their own personal satisfaction. They never actually develop true feelings for someone because they learn that it is apparently not cool to do so.
Instead of actually committing to one person, people of my generation have devised a new system when it comes to relationships. It is called, wait for it…talking. Yes, talking. And according to this “talking” system, two people who are attracted to each other “talk” or get to know each other better. Now do not get me wrong, I have no problem with getting to know someone better before actually committing to a relationship with them. However, I do have a problem with people talking to keep from committing to a relationship. Especially if both like each other the way they say they do. Some people have no problem doing this as it gives them a chance to be with others without sacrificing their relationship with their “main chick/guy.”
Maybe people do this because they are afraid of committing to someone who they could have a deep connection with (crazy but some do this). Or perhaps they are still recovering from a previous relationship. Yet, regardless of the reason, there is no need to be with someone and have them develop feelings for you, if you are simply looking for a short lived relationship, or as some call it, a “fling.”
As you may have realized by now, I am definitely an old soul. Some may feel as if I am asking for too much in a relationship, or have standards that are too high. But that is simply not the case. I am not one who is eager to be with as many guys as possible during my college career. In fact, I have recently learned more about myself and would rather focus on accomplishing some of my life goals before getting deep into a relationship. I just appreciate the simple things in life, and being with someone who I can genuinely spend time with sounds much more enjoyable. If you agree with my thinking, feel free to share.
