As a college student, I find it interesting to see how many of my peers are in relationships. It is even more amazing going on social media, where it seems like everyone is engaged and getting married, and then there’s me… your average single Pringle, and that is absolutely fine with me.

I don’t need to be in a relationship to be happy, and honestly, I have other priorities. I’m going to school, working, and participating in activities that I enjoy. These things take up time, and so does a relationship. It’s difficult to put your whole effort into something when you’re performing a balancing act. There’s nothing wrong with wanting or having a relationship, but I, personally, have other priorities right now.

I have my dreams and goals, and they are important to me. They are important to my development as a person in society, and I want to take as much time as possible to mature and develop myself before dedicating myself to someone.

Love is a crazy thing. Love is a scary thing. Love takes time. I want to take my time with a relationship. I want that person to be my priority, but in the right time. In my mind, I don’t think it’s fair for me to be in a relationship with someone when I can’t make the time to be with them. I want a close, intimate relationship. I want a relationship where we are comfortable with one another. I want a relationship where two people can be one, and we can trust each other and talk about anything. I want someone who can challenge me and encourage me in all of my endeavors. I want to give them all of my time and all of my energy, but now is not the time. Now… is my time!

I want to use my time to learn and grow. I want to become a stronger, bolder, and more mature individual. I want to become leader in society and in my career field. I want to excel in something new. This is my time. I will use my time for myself. One day, I’m sure, there will be “our time,” but I choose to put a relationship at the bottom of my totem pole, for now.

Sometimes, we have to be selfish. We need to do things for ourselves. It’s healthy, and it’s acceptable. No one should feel pressured to enter a relationship, whether it be by family, friends, or someone pursuing you. If you are not ready, it is okay. If you don’t feel you have the time or energy for a relationship, it is okay. There is no reason to be in relationship if the time is not right for you, but if you want a relationship and believe that you are ready for a relationship, then go for it.

When I’m ready to take on a relationship, I will. Nothing anyone says can change that. I will follow my heart, and right now, my heart says to focus on me.