More and more of my friends seem to be involved in serious relationships every day. I see people getting engaged on Facebook or announcing that they are expecting, which is great! I'm seriously happy for them and I hope that one day I'm in a relationship that makes me as happy as they all seem to be! But the thing is that I'm not that worried about finding that relationship.

I'm 20. I still have a lot of things that I need to figure out about myself. You know what they say, right? You need to love yourself before you can expect someone to love you. I'm not saying that is completely true but I am saying that I don't think it's a bad idea. I want to be completely happy with who I am and what I am doing with my life. I want to focus on myself for a while.

I'm also in college and I need to put the time and effort into my schoolwork and not searching for a guy. Whenever I get in a relationship it needs to be with a guy who understands that I need to focus on school and my career. That's not an option, it's a necessity.

My parents have always described me as being an independent individual. I don't need to be in a relationship to be complete. I'm my own person and I am fine on my own. Yeah, having someone there would be nice but I never have and I never will need to rely on someone to either support me or make me feel like I'm worth something.

Now don't get me wrong, I want to meet that perfect guy and fall in love, get married in front of our friends and family, and make my single Facebook friends cringe at how happy I am (admit it we all want that at least a little bit) but I'm not in a rush to get there. I'm happy where I am, spending time with friends and working on becoming the woman that I aspire to be.

I feel like a lot of people my age are rushing into relationships with the fantasy of meeting their soulmate in college in their head. I'm not saying this never happens, because sometimes everything works out, but I am being realistic. You need to take the time to get to know someone and you both need to be committed to the relationship, and sometimes that just doesn't happen in college. It is what it is.

College is a time to enjoy yourself and work on yourself before you have to truly "adult" in the real world. The way I see it is when I meet the right guy I meet him. I'm in no hurry though. He has to work on himself too, right? So don't be afraid to take your time and have some fun and use this time to focus on yourself!