When you scroll through your newsfeed or search the web, it is almost impossible to avoid seeing articles that offer some type of relationship advice, whether it is advice on how to find your soulmate, a long, detailed article on what the perfect love looks like, or a simple list of things to achieve if you want to be the perfect boyfriend/girlfriend. I’m here to tell you this: keep scrolling. Don’t click on that article. Don’t waste your time reading an explanation of what someone else’s love life looks like. You should never take relationship advice from the internet and this is why.
Finding a relationship is not a four-step process.
Didn’t we learn this from "Hitch?" Trying to play it cool sometimes causes you to fall on your face. Just because someone used their relationship blog to tell you to buy us a drink and throw out your best line, it doesn’t mean that’s what we want. Don’t follow a process. “Three steps to a good relationship” sounds like three steps to nowhere. Don’t stress. Don’t overthink. Just let it develop organically. The most attractive thing that you can do is be genuine.
All relationships are not created equal.
There is no one-size-fits-all when it comes to love. If someone is sitting behind their computer somewhere, writing an explanation of what love is and how to achieve it, who’s to say that your experience will be the same? A great relationship for one person could be awful for another. People express love in different ways and find connections differently. Don’t judge the success of your love life based on someone else’s and don’t let the appearance of someone’s “success” in relationships make them an expert on yours.
Pressure to be in a relationship is unnecessary.
So what if you’re single? Just because everything that you see on the internet seems to be screaming at you to find someone, it doesn’t mean that you have to listen. If you’re not ready to commit, don’t. If you haven’t found someone who you absolutely adore, don’t waste your time or theirs. There is no ticking time bomb on your ability to find a significant other. You’ve got plenty of time. So, slow down and enjoy life as it comes. There's no need to use the tips and tricks that you find in your nearest magazine. Odds are good that, if you have to use tips and tricks to pick someone up, they probably aren’t worth it.
