If you're a millennial, you know what I'm talking about when I say that we have completely ruined the definitions of relationship, dating and commitment. Today's "dating," or should I say hook-up culture, is an utter mess that has taken a turn for the worse. Today's media, including television, movies and apps, have influenced people so much that people can barely maintain a relationship (that's if they want one in the first place). This dating and hook-up culture that we have makes people have no desire for relationships. Because of everything presented by today's dating culture, there's so much that could go wrong in a relationship based on the direction we are pointed in. Here are six reasons why I hate today's "dating" culture.
1. There's no more romance.
Call me old fashioned, but if I were to be in any type of relationship, I would want to be in a relationship with romance. All I see today are people on their phones not paying attention to each other, going to a bar or party just to get drunk together, or even too scared to call each other "boyfriend" and "girlfriend." If you're too scared to put labels on things, how are you supposed to show each other you care by a little old fashioned romance?
2. It endorses cheating.
Since people are too scared to put labels on things, relationships are hard to come by, which opens the door to being with more than one person. I've come across way too many people who have cheated on their significant other just because they were unhappy or scared of an actual relationship. This just leads to hurting other people and confusion; it's the worst thing someone can do.
3. It makes people not want to get married.
Today's dating culture is so screwed up that it makes people afraid of relationships so much that they never want one. Myself included, people decide never to get married because of everything that could go wrong with their relationship -- solely because no one can seem to stay committed to one person anymore. People would rather be alone than mixed up in the mess of a bad relationship.
4. It seems like a game.
All I seem to see in today's dating culture is a competition of how many people someone can sleep with. It seems like a game where a group of people just want to see who has the highest body count. People don't have sex to show someone they love and care about them anymore; it's pretty much all a game.
5. No one can commit to just one person.
Especially with all these dating apps out there, people can "be with" or "talk to" (don't even get me started on the terms "be with" and "talk to") more than one person all the time. It promotes the notion that no one can commit to one person. Some people argue that it's good to "keep your options open," but to me it's just an excuse to avoid being with one person, which is, simply put, pathetic.
6. It influences people not to care about feelings.
Since people can't commit to one person and just see relationships as a game, people become less and less in touch with their feelings. People start not caring about how badly they can hurt other people, as well as suppressing their own feelings. People seem to run away from feelings, but it's good to have feelings. It shows you care.
The dating culture today has totally taken a toll on the way people treat other in relationships. It has become a careless, insignificant game that people are playing, and hurting people along the way. If you have a boyfriend or girlfriend that still values relationships, romance and the actual concept of dating, congratulations. Hold on tight, because you don't want to enter the world that is today's dating culture.
