"Hmm, maybe if I pretended to like the same music he does, he would like me."

"What if I get a hair cut like this? I am pretty sure he'd like me then. He showed me someone with a similar hair cut he said he found attractive."

"Of course! I can just do whatever he wants to do and it would be impossible for him not to like me!"

"He loves this clothing store. If I bought him this shirt, he would love me."

Imagine that these quotes are the thoughts that dwell in your mind when thinking about your current lover/partner. These quotes evoke similar feelings: pity, a lack of self-value and a lack of self-love. These thoughts are some of the unfortunate parts of the unrequited love complex.

As many of us know, unrequited love is a love that makes you feel weak and insufficient. If one has pure, meaningful, passion-induced feelings for someone who feels as if you are solely just an object of affection and satisfaction, then you are unfortunately a victim of this traumatic experience.

The unrequited love experience can be compared to an endless suffering, an emptiness that lacks any depth, a hollow heart. It will make you question your worth. It will cause you to question your character, your appearance, your morality.

"A deep, exquisite and burning desire for one that does not long for you as the way you long for them. A sickening, darkening and self-loathing piece of your soul that will forever be detached from your existence. An undefined, unanswered and irrational phobia of love consumes your heart as the waves consume the shore," stated 22-year-old Rita Randall-Smith when asked her interpretation on unrequited love.

Unrequited love can be described as a person discovering he or she has consumed poisonous goods and is waiting to die, not knowing how slow or how painful their tragic death may be. It reminds me of being isolated on a tiny island with gigantic, irate waves waiting to consume you if you step near the shore. Intense gales flustering around you, ready to throw you off into the ocean while you hold on to the fragile branches of a withering tree. It is that one moment of brightness you receive from the sun on that stormy day, teasing you into thinking the day will be sunny, but in fact, it continues to storm. It is a silhouette of false hope and lack of self-value.

The experience causes a tantalizing realm of the surreal. Wondering if changing yourself will make the person love you leads you falling into a spiral of false hope and interpersonal depreciation. By attempting to conform to your partner's idea of an 'ideal' significant other, you are losing yourself. It causes a constant need to feel as if you need to better yourself or you are not enough.

Also, comparing yourself to others that your unrequited love finds attractive is one of the unhealthiest things you can do to yourself. "Maybe if I looked like that person, they would like me" is one of the most disgusting ideas one can make themselves believe. There is no one like you in this universe. You are special and one-of-a-kind. Never have anyone cause you to believe or feel any differently.

No matter how hard you try and how much you change, if that person does not love, value or appreciate you, then you are filling yourself with false hope that can cause dire emotional damage and trauma.

That person is not suited for you and that is fine. There is no need to dwell on this idea that he or she will wake up one day and call you screaming, " I LOVE YOU! I WANT TO BE WITH YOU FOREVER!" That will not happen today, tomorrow or ever with that person, and if something similar does occur, it is another idea stimulating a tantalizing relationship.

Stop trying to please someone who does not see how beautiful, intelligent and amazing you are. There is nothing worse than having that person take pity on you when you are of wonder to another.

Love is pure, soothing, confusing, ebullient and blissful. Of course, it may have its ups and downs, but it is not tainted or malnourished. It is like a flower in full bloom with petals spread wide open, an iridescent glow protruding from its crown. Love will make you tingle, it will make you giggle, it will make you smile so wide that your face hurts. It is a shared embrace between warm-hearted lovers. It is wonder and awe.

All of you in this world deserve true love. Do not manipulate yourself into thinking that you should give your all to someone who would not care to find out how you are today, how your day has been, what made you smile or what might have made you cry today. Every single person deserves the ripest and purest form of love and remember to never to settle for someone just because you are lonely. Love will surprise you one day, and it will be a day that you will never forget.