This is why I used to put others before myself.
- I thought it was selfish to love yourself
You are forever, others may not be, and it’s time to look at it like that. Loving yourself and putting yourself first sometimes can be helpful. In times of trouble, or drama between people, having the guts to stay out of it for your own sanity, and health, is better than sticking up for others, unless it’s a case of bullying. Always stand in if it’s between someone and a bully. But other than that, you really have to think about both sides. Is it going to help them if you’re in the situation? Is it going to make it worse for you in the end? What to do, what not to do.
- I wanted everyone to like me
Woah, OK. This was and is a tough lesson to learn. Not everyone is going to like you. There are billions of people in this world. You’re bound to find people that like you, love you, and very much dislike you. That may be hard for some to handle; it was for me. But once I really thought about how many people there is in the world v. me and all of those thoughts and opinions swirling around this universe, I realized there is bound to be someone that doesn’t like you. I wanted everyone to like me, so I would take my generous quality to the extreme. I offered help to everyone, and I mean everyone; even if I knew they didn’t particularly take a liking to me, I would do it to get them to like me. In reality, I should just be pleasing myself, and the people that do like me. Sorry.
Those are the main reasons. I honestly wanted to be liked by everyone. I didn’t care who it was; even if I didn’t really like them, I wanted them to like me. I never wanted to be the narcissistic girl. If anyone knows me, I certainly am not that girl, but I thought that if I were to put myself over someone else, I would be that girl.
One thing I didn’t talk about here is why you should put others before yourself.
- There are so many opportunities
Volunteering. Mission trips. Abroad. By being there, just being there, whether you are volunteering somewhere, you’re on a mission trip, or you’re abroad studying a different culture, you can really step into other’s shoes and learn from your past mistakes. You can make friends in the different areas. Being empathetic is a really great quality, and you can help many people who are struggling just by giving advice, sinking into their shoes, and being their shoulder to cry on.
- I want to and love to
I personally just love and want to help others in any way I can. That’s just my personality, and I grow from each situation of help. You can too. Really, really think about it.
