I have this working theory that two heterosexual people of the opposite gender cannot have a strictly platonic friendship. You may say, “Not me and my best guy friend! He has a girlfriend and I have a boyfriend but he’s still my ride-or-die!” I am sorry but I really don’t think so. Think about it, that boy would not be sitting there listening to all of your girl drama or all of your terrible boyfriend drama if he didn’t think that maybe, one day, possibly, you and him would end up together. And same thing goes for you. There is no way that if your very best friend in the world is a guy you haven’t thought, “Well, it’ll all be okay in the end because one day I’ll just end up marrying my best guy friend and it’ll all be amazing.” That’s the safe way to think and let's be real, every girl’s fairy-tale is for her and her best guy friend to fall madly in love and be happy and just make every day the best day together.

Okay maybe not that last part but you have to agree with me at least a little. Ask yourself: are you jealous of your best guy friend’s new girlfriend because he won’t be spending as much time with you or are you secretly scared he’ll love her more? I have definitely gone through this struggle and it is anything but fun. You’re constantly torn between wanting your ride-or-die to be happy, but at the same time not too happy because you’re hoping they will eventually break up and he’ll come back to you and everything will be how it was.

I’ll admit I am biased because I have had best guy friends that over and over don’t work out because of the simple fact that their are feelings involved. Neither of us can deny that at least one of us definitely likes the other or has thought about it. This has happened to me with every single best guy friend that has been my ride-or-die since the sixth grade. We will have a good thing going and then BAM! He hits me with that, “Will you be my first kiss?” or I’ll get crazy jealous and short with him because instead of walking me to the carpool line, he walks his new girl.

When I got to high school, I got a sea of new boys to appoint to the position of my best guy friend but none of them worked out until my junior year when I really thought that I found the best guy friend for me. In my head, he and I would stay friends all of high school and all of college and eventually get married. Of course we would date other people, but we would always come back to each other and be each other’s number ones because we were meant to be. Well just like the others, that one didn’t last. He has a girlfriend now and told me that it would be easier if he and I didn’t speak anymore in order to avoid any conflict in his new relationship.

Right now, the beginning of my freshman year of college, is the first time in a really long time that I don’t have a ride-or-die. It can be pretty lonely but I think it’s good for me because right now I am still healing from the heart break of the last one. But that doesn't mean I will never have another and that is why I think it is important that my next one knows a few things.

I'm not saying, "Hey guy! If you're my best friend you better be ready to commit for life!" It's more of a promise that I will love him with my whole heart, and because of that and my working theory that a strictly platonic best guy and girl friendship doesn’t exist, I may or may not fall in love with him. But don't be alarmed! That's not a definite because like I said, it's a working theory. But it is quite possible because I am definitely a hopeless romantic and love best friend love stories.

You must know I have been through a lot of failed friendships and been burned by people that I really thought had my best interest in mind. I have somewhat of a rocky past in the friendship field but that doesn’t mean that I love and care about the people I am close to any less. I am also an open book and will tell you anything about me therefore I want you to feel you can do the same. Please tell me if I am doing something that is getting on your nerves or if I did anything to hurt your feelings because that is the last thing I would ever want to do. Losing you would be a bigger heart break than an ex-boyfriend so please tell me what’s on your mind. Tell me about why you are the way that you are.

Let's have fun and relax and really just enjoy spending time with each other no matter what we are doing. And please just be there. Just stick around and be committed to our friendship. At times it will be rocky because I can definitely be a lot to handle but I promise you it’ll all be worth it. You'll have a loyal friend that you can trust with your whole heart. You'll have a best girl friend that will be honest with you because I care and would want you to do the same for me. You'll have a best girl friend that will be invested in us and will love every single minute of being your best friend.