Looking back on relationships is a hard thing to do. You remember the memories you made with the select people you've been with. Sometimes these memories are good, but sometimes they remind you of what you lost and what could've been had things gone differently. Looking back also leads to thoughts of what never happened because you never tried. Maybe you didn't try because you were nervous or just couldn't get nasty, self-doubting thoughts out of your head. Maybe you didn't try because the person was committed to someone else, and when they were finally available—you just couldn't bring yourself to confess what you were feeling.
Looking back is painful.
Looking at where you are now can be frustrating as hell. Maybe you've moved to a new city and there are a ton of people, or you've started a new job and there are so many new faces, but you just can't seem to click with anyone. The process of trying to meet someone is becoming a challenge because you have doubts about everyone that are based on your slim amount of experience. Opening new doors and letting people in is an impossible challenge. Finding your person is supposed to be easy. It's a meet and greet and falling into love with the way they laugh or smile. It's a split moment change from being someone's friend to their trusted person and confident. There are people in this world who are simply not made to be. There are people who are too stubborn for you or people who give too much and make you feel as if you aren't giving back enough. There are toxic people who push you to your edge, and toxic people who pull you away from what matters the most to you. These things make finding what you're looking for so hard.
Looking at the now is confusing and scary.
Looking at the future is doubtful and defeating. The past is haunting you, your now seems daunting, and it feels like there isn't someone out there for you. Looking into the future needs to be hopeful and empowering. You have the power to tear down your own walls, introduce yourself to people, and try to form new connections. Don't dwell on the past too much—take the lessons you've learned and move on. Don't expect love to fall into your lap—push past your nerves and give love more chances to appear. Keep seeking love out even though you're two swipes away from giving up on it.
Your person is out there waiting to be stumbled upon, swiped on, or bumped into—quite literally. Don't let yourself get in the way.
