5 Reminders To My Parents As I Come Home For Break

5 Reminders To My Parents As I Come Home For Break

I successfully adulted without you, but I still need you.

Okay, Mom and Dad, this semester has been a rough one for all of us. I've done things I never thought I could, like doing my own laundry and successfully adulting on a daily basis. With that said, this period of independence has changed me more than I ever thought it would, in the most positive way.

So, as I return home for the few short weeks you have with me before it all starts again, here are a few things you need to know.

1. I spent weeks at a time with you not knowing where I was late at night

With that said, please don't be upset if it takes me a few days to remember to say, "Hey, I'm going out." And don't be alarmed if I leave at one a.m. for Taco Bell; it was routine at school.

2. I'm going to be (very) sad about missing my school friends

I spent every day with some of the best people I know for weeks on end, and now I have to go three weeks without them. I'm going to be sad about it, and you are going to hear, endlessly, about people you have never met. I'm really sorry. (No, I'm not.)

3. The friends I had when I left four months ago are not the same as the ones I have now

Time changes people. As I've discovered since I left for school, so does distance. The friends I had in August are not the same as the ones I have now. Friends from home changed, and I did, too. It's part of life. So please, don't ask me if I'm going to go hang out with him/her over break. We aren't friends anymore.

4. I successfully adulted without you

(And I still can, even if I'm under your roof for three weeks!) No, you don't have to do my laundry or cook my meals. You don't need to be concerned that I might be coming down with something, or that I've been weirdly quiet for the past few days. I lived on my own, independently, for a while. I've got this. Trust me.

5. I couldn't have done it without you

I can talk all I want about how independent I am, and how much being on my own has made me a better person, but I wouldn't have been able to do that had you not raised me to be the woman you did. Had you not instilled in me the confidence necessary to be on my own, I wouldn't have been able to do it.

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To The Grandmothers Who Made Us The Women We Are Today

Sincerely, the loving granddaughters.

The relationship between a grandmother and her granddaughter is something so uniquely special and something to be treasured forever.

Your grandma loves you like you are her own daughter and adores you no matter what. She is the first person you run to when you have a problem with your parents and she never fails to grace you with the most comforting advice.

She may be guilty of spoiling you rotten but still makes sure to stress the importance of being thankful and kind.

Your grandma has most likely lived through every obstacle that you are experiencing now as a young adult and always knows just exactly what to say.

She grew up in another generation where things were probably much harder for young women than they are today.

She is a walking example of perseverance, strength, and grace who you aim to be like someday.

Your grandma teaches you the lessons she had to learn the hard way because she does not want you to make the same mistakes she did when she was growing up.

Her hugs never fail to warm your heart, her smile never fails to make you smile, and her laugh never fails to brighten your day.

She inspires you to be the best version of yourself that you can be.

You only hope that one day you can be the mother and grandmother she was to you.

A piece of girl’s heart will forever belong to her grandma that no one could ever replace.

She is the matriarch of your family and is the glue that holds you all together.

Grandmothers play such an important role in helping their granddaughters to grow into strong, intelligent, kind women.

She teaches you how to love and how to forgive.

Without the unconditional love of your grandma, you would not be the woman you are today.

To all of the grandmothers out there, thank you for being you.


the loving granddaughters

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realities of being A Parent

And how to not lose your children.


I work in Child Protective Services and I am proud to say that.

I love working in a job field that lets me meet kids, talk to families, meet parents and meet people is a job that makes me happy. I love being able to make a difference in the world. I love being able to make a positive change. I love being a nice person to people who may not be treated that way by others. I like having people tell me that they appreciate how hard I work and the great job I do. But it's not always easy. It makes it difficult because I am a parent. I have children. I know what it's like to be a parent. And I know how to tell people what it takes to not lose your children.

Working in a field like I do, I deal with bad home situations, dirty houses, horrible parents, abuse, sexual misconduct and a lot of things I wouldn't wish on others. But through it all, I can say that I know what it's like to be a parent.

The downfall of being a parent is that if you make your neighbor mad, you piss off an ex-wife, ex-girlfriend, ex-husband or someone else you happen to cross paths with, it's as easy as them picking up their phone and calling the agency I work for and filing a complaint. Unfortunately, you cannot always avoid making someone angry. You can't avoid pissing someone off. And you can't avoid going through relationship problems, breakups or custody battles. But you can avoid abusing your kids. You can avoid beating up your children. You can avoid having domestic abuse incidents in front of your children. And most importantly, it's the best way to not lose your children.

If you are doing drugs, you could lose your children. If you are running a meth house, you could lose your children. If you are leaving them at home alone and they are too young, you could lose your children; the list goes on. It's not rocket science. What it's like to be a parent is a difficult thing to explain. There is no rule book. There is no instruction manual. You can't look it up on Google. You can ask your neighbor, your friend or your cousin and each person might give you a different answer. Each person may tell you what they think is right and what they think is wrong. And if you listen to the wrong person, you might lose your children.

I know what it's like to be a parent. It involves a lot of sleepless nights. It involves spending a lot of money. It involves taking care of your children. It involves making sure your kids have clothes. It involves making sure your kids are in school. It means that you put your children first. It means you might not do things you once did. It means your life changes. But it's an amazing feeling. It's something I would never give up. And when I go to work and know that I have to deal with parents physically and sexually abusing their children, improper supervision of their children and deal with other things parents shouldn't do, I just sit and shake my head. I know what it's like to be a parent and I see every day what happens when people lose their children.

If you want to be a successful parent, you need to do a few simple things. Don't do drugs. Don't beat your kids. Don't lock them in closets. Don't sell them to human trafficking. Don't do things you know are wrong when society doesn't think they are right. And most importantly? Love them.

I work in Child Protective Services. For the record, I don't want your kids. I don't want to remove your kids. I don't want to be in court explaining to a judge, a bunch of lawyers and your children why they are being removed and sent to live with some strange person they've never met. I don't want to knock on your door. I don't want to come over with the police and watch you get arrested. I don't want to see your kids live with a grandmother, grandfather or some other family member they've never met.

I know what it's like to be a parent. And when I get up in the morning and go to work? I'm most certainly going to deal with another situation that could possibly impact whether some parent keeps or loses their children. I know what it's like to be a parent. And I have seen what it's like to watch parents lose their children.

Do yourself a favor. Behave. Don't do things you know you shouldn't do. Raise your children. And most importantly? Don't ever put yourself in a position where someone else has to raise them.

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