5 Reminders To My Parents As I Come Home For Break

5 Reminders To My Parents As I Come Home For Break

I successfully adulted without you, but I still need you.

Okay, Mom and Dad, this semester has been a rough one for all of us. I've done things I never thought I could, like doing my own laundry and successfully adulting on a daily basis. With that said, this period of independence has changed me more than I ever thought it would, in the most positive way.

So, as I return home for the few short weeks you have with me before it all starts again, here are a few things you need to know.

1. I spent weeks at a time with you not knowing where I was late at night

With that said, please don't be upset if it takes me a few days to remember to say, "Hey, I'm going out." And don't be alarmed if I leave at one a.m. for Taco Bell; it was routine at school.

2. I'm going to be (very) sad about missing my school friends

I spent every day with some of the best people I know for weeks on end, and now I have to go three weeks without them. I'm going to be sad about it, and you are going to hear, endlessly, about people you have never met. I'm really sorry. (No, I'm not.)

3. The friends I had when I left four months ago are not the same as the ones I have now

Time changes people. As I've discovered since I left for school, so does distance. The friends I had in August are not the same as the ones I have now. Friends from home changed, and I did, too. It's part of life. So please, don't ask me if I'm going to go hang out with him/her over break. We aren't friends anymore.

4. I successfully adulted without you

(And I still can, even if I'm under your roof for three weeks!) No, you don't have to do my laundry or cook my meals. You don't need to be concerned that I might be coming down with something, or that I've been weirdly quiet for the past few days. I lived on my own, independently, for a while. I've got this. Trust me.

5. I couldn't have done it without you

I can talk all I want about how independent I am, and how much being on my own has made me a better person, but I wouldn't have been able to do that had you not raised me to be the woman you did. Had you not instilled in me the confidence necessary to be on my own, I wouldn't have been able to do it.

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15 Reasons My Parents' Love Gives Me Hope For The Future

Seeing my parents love and care for one another has taught me so much about how relationships should be and God's love for his children.

1. My dad told my mom on their first date that he knew she was the one and wanted to spend the rest of his life with her (scary or romantic?).

Got engaged 4 months later, and married 4 months after that. The guy was not wasting anytime there people.

2. After 21 years of marriage and 3 kids later, my dad is still obsessed with my mother.

I mean she is almost 50 and still rocking it, but whether she is a hot mess or all dressed up, he is complimenting her and still head over heals. He is always taking her picture; I guarantee you over half of his camera roll is pictures of my mother.

3. They are constantly motivating each other to their fullest potential.

When one is slacking behind, the other picks them up, not leaving one behind.

4. They work out in our basement together and my dad takes my moms classes (she is a yoga and group fitness instructor).

SO they are both fit and killing it.

5. Whenever I go home, there is always packages being delivered, and I’m like mom what is this and she is like oh it is just dad buying me another dress or bathing suit.

After all of these years, he still spoils her.

6. They are so goofy together.

They blame their farts on each other (or my little sister even when she’s not in the room) (farts are very funny in my family, don't judge). Also, we have a mug of my parents kissing on a bike and it is my friends favorite mug to drink out of (you know who you are).

7. They are always putting each other before their self, which results in a constant build-up of positivity and encouragement.

8. My dad writes my mom little love notes on sticky notes and sticks them all over her bathroom mirror. It is adorable.

9. My mom deals with my dad’s impatient-ness in a way I will never be able to comprehend.

They recognize each others faults and don’t discriminate each other for them.

10. Whatever challenges come their way, they always come our better and stronger on the other side, and they have been through a lot.

11. My mom is always putting my siblings and I before herself, and my dad is always pushing her to do things for herself like getting a massage, her nails done, or traveling.

They recognize how much work they each put into our family and love one another that much more because of it.

12. My dad is a pilot; therefore, he travels a lot.

My parents are constantly saying that the time they spend apart from each other just causes them to cherish the time they have together that much more.

13. They persistently say how they fall more and more in love with each other every day.

They say that they are more in love with each other now than they day they got married.

14. Making sacrifices for each other is huge.

This ties in with everything else I have been saying about my parents relationship, but sacrifice is essential in making a relationship successful and they got this down.

15. Recognizing what makes each other happy or upset and acting accordingly.

Knowing how to treat one another to uplift their mood and when to take a set back.

Overall, because I've grown up watching my parents relationship and witnessing how much they love each other, it sets my standards high, it gives me hope for what the future holds. Just seeing my parents love and care for one another has taught me so much about how relationships should be and God's love for his children. I just can't believe it has taken me this long to realize it. In a world where divorce has become so popular, I pray for this kind of love for myself, my siblings, my friends, other couples, and everyone else out there. No matter who you are, you deserve to be loved. God created us to love. Spread that love baby.

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It Has Been Nine Years Now, Daddy

I cannot believe that it has been nine years since you left this earth, Daddy.

Dear Daddy,

I still remember the day that you left us. I was 14-years-old, DJ (David Jr.) was 12, and Amanda had just turned three. I wish your pain was a pulled muscle like you thought it was. I wish that I had more knowledge on heart attacks and blood clots. I wish I could have saved your life.

Not a day goes by where I do not think of you and miss you. I remember you telling me that it was your dream that I do better than what you had done in your life, and, so, I am making sure to live a life that you would have wanted for me. This includes working, getting a degree, and doing the absolute best that I can for as long as I can.

I often wonder if I am making you proud or if I have ever let you down. Being let down comes with being a parent, I think, so, I am sure that I have done it throughout these past nine years.

I am 23-years-old now, Daddy. I married my husband, Jason in 2013, and we had our first baby, Elizabeth, a few days later. Elizabeth Judy Rose Massey (Judy after mom's mom) is four-years-old now, but she will be five on July 19th.

We had our second baby, Jason Alexander Massey on September 13th, 2016 and he is one now. You would have loved them to pieces and I can just imagine how much they would love you, too.

I am nearly finished with my Bachelor's degree, Daddy. I will be graduating next Spring (2019). You will have been gone for ten years by then, Daddy. I am sure that you know already, but I have joined three, yes, THREE, honor societies since starting my journey with SNHU. I have joined The National Society of Leadership & Success, The National Society of Collegiate Scholars, and The International English Honor Society.

Vampire related books are still my favorite. I remember you buying me each Twilight book every time I finished the previous book in the series. Thank you for that, truly. Gosh, I remember when you went to the mall and came out with a Twilight pillow and blanket set with Edwards face on them for me.

Remember all of your 'Buffy the Vampire Slayer' books? Mom ended up giving me all of them and they sit happily on my bookshelf. I have yet to read them, but I will, someday. I wish I could have read them while you were still alive so that we had yet another thing to bond over. I remember watching the TV series with you, but if that is something that I learned from reading 'The Vampire Diaries' is that the books can be 98% different when being compared to the movie(s) or show(s) created to follow the series.

Oh, yeah! I still have the guitar you gave to me before passing away. Sadly, I still do not know how to play, but that will change soon, I hope.

I am sorry that I am all over the place with writing this to you, Daddy, but I just did not know where to start and where to stop. I hope seeing this makes you smile and warms your heart to know that I am doing alright and, hopefully, making your dream for me come true.

I love and miss you always, Daddy.


Your little girl

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