It may be hard to believe that pain is beneficial but I think under the pain there is a good outcome. I’m sure we have all experienced pain in some way. Depression, heartaches and loneliness are dreadful. In the event of a parent’s divorce, losing someone close, or lacking confidence are all painful in different ways.

Depression feels like a disease in the mind. Heartache feels like a stab in the heart. Loneliness feels as if being invisible.

Why do you think wise people are so experienced? Because they usually are the ones who have dealt with pain the most. They seem to know a lot and give the best advice because they dealt with many events and experiences resulting in emotional pain.

Next time a friend or family member is in pain, try to feel and understand the pain they are experiencing. Remind them in their time of distress, it’s only a period of life where you get smudged, eventually it will pass.

I have experienced several situations in my life causing great pain. However, I tend to be a realist and I remind myself of my young age. So I know I will endure more painful experiences in my future.

I don’t think there is anything wrong with thinking realistically because I also know that if I was able to live through my past experiences than I feel assured I can go through anything else that comes my way.

If we never let go of our pain, then anger will accumulate in our lives. Trust me I have seen people I truly love go through bitterness. Many never seem to be cured of it.

I’m not sure if this example has been used before but let us imagine our lives as a book. As our pages are being turned over and over eventually it lands to the next chapter of our lives.

As others read our story, we get to decide what can be written.

Do we want to give readers a sad person who never moved on?

Or do we want to be an example of a strong person who was able to get up from all the pain and kept walking steady.

So the next time when you feel pain, stop and analyze the feeling that is being felt. Tell yourself is this pain worth it? Breakups are usually for the best especially when you learn from it and move on.

If you feel deep pain, remember every person on this world feels some sort of a pain every day. Everyone is struggling in their own way and every person has their own fears and problems.

You are not alone.

Talking about it with friends, family or a professional is the best way to get yourself to open up and release the thoughts you have been accumulating.

Life will never be perfect. So don’t expect for every day to be a happy day. Life can get messy, hard and painful but that is okay.

As you encounter those gloomy and hard days, don’t hesitate, be strong and put yourself above the pain.

As Oprah Winfrey once said, “turn your wounds into wisdom.”