If you are reading this and are single, this is to you. If you are praying everyday that someone will enter your life and bring you happiness, this is especially to you.

Although I am not currently single, I have spent the majority of my life in that position. Let me first start off by saying I am now 21-years-old and a senior in college. Based on this fact, I haven't been on this Earth long, but longer than half the people I hear complaining of not having their soulmate yet. In my preteen years while all my friends were having their first relationships, I was hanging with the boys playing two-hand touch football. I was extremely picky and while nothing has changed there, I was honestly in no rush to grow up that fast anyway.

"We haven't even gotten our license yet, so why are you looking for your husband, homegirl," I thought to myself. I did not believe in hooking up, so that wasn't why I found being single to be satisfying. Having to take time out of my day to glorify someone else? No thanks. I am selfish in relationships and I'll be the first to admit it. Honestly, it is in our nature to be. If your needs aren't met emotionally, then what's the point, right?

You shouldn't have to date someone solely on the fact that you don't want to be in the single column. Don't get me wrong, some high school sweethearts make it out happily ever after, but that's not usually the case. In fact, it's a rarity, if anything. Let's face it, to those of you now out of high school, you can help me confirm that the majority of guys are looking for one thing, and I'll assume we all know what that is. Those of you reading that may still be in high school, I hate to disappoint you, but there are so many things I wish I knew about relationships in high school. Just like when I was 16 and thinking I was in love, but didn't know what the hell that was.

Now, while in high school, I started to be a tad bit more girly and felt the pressure to find a boyfriend, or at least the attention of a boy. If you weren't a hermit, had all your teeth, and hung out with the people I did, not having a boyfriend meant something was wrong with you. From then on, the saddest thing was that I listened to that theory.

I entered college after having my first what-I-considered-to-be love, and wanted nothing more than to find a boy that would exceed all my hopeless romantic expectations and make me believe in love again. I remember nights I would be upset about some dude that cheated on me, or wasn't texting me back and asking God of all people, why can't I find someone? I was good to people, didn't cheat, lie, steal, or anything I felt I should be punished for.

I had my typical insecurities as any college female student does, but for the most part I thought I was quite the catch. I'm not completely hideous, I think I'm pretty hilarious, and I knew I was smart. I compared myself to other girls that were so mean and awful to people, but for some reason they were always the ones who ended up with a happy relationship. After several encounters with douchebags and duds, I decided to embrace this single life more than I ever had.

I started loving myself more than ever and thoroughly enjoyed being single finally, what you're supposed to do before you find this mystery guy that sweeps you off your feet or whatever. I soon found that when you stop searching for that person, you'll soon be surprised with something even better. As basic as it sounds, it couldn't be more true. I never listened when someone told me if you enjoy being single that good things will be there sooner than you think. I'm high-key mad at myself for never listening to those older, annoying people trying to tell you their take on love.

Being single is the shit, and let me tell you why. I didn't have to answer to anyone, went to bed when I wanted, took up the whole bed if I wanted, and could even look like a complete hobo if I wanted. I spent more time with my friends and binge-watched shows. I focused more on how I felt and less on how many calories I was intaking because I didn't have to worry about whatever guy I was with wondering if I was getting chunky. I picked up old loves of mine i had lost like playing tennis again and writing music. I have to say I am a pretty secure person, so I was content in being on my own, but even if you're not you can still find happiness through it.

Even if some dude isn't what you find after finding yourself that's fine. A significant other is not what you should find your happiness in. I can honestly say that during that severely long period of time when I was living independently, having no intentions of seeking a boyfriend, and focusing on me I was the happiest I had ever been in my life. Whether you find yourself through a new career, hobby, or do find someone that makes you happy, that's all you should be after, anyway. If you want to find someone who will love you like you want them to, love being in a relationship with yourself first. It took almost 21 years, but I was finally blessed with someone who makes me feel like I'm the most special thing in the world.

So dear singles, be patient. Enjoy it while you can, because while being in a relationship is amazing, there is nothing quite like the relationship you have with yourself.