To my friend who deserves better,
“Good, better, best. Never let it rest. 'Til your good is better and your better is best.” -St. Jerome
Happiness is a beautiful thing. Settling, settling is not. You have every right to happiness at full. Finding someone that helps make you a better person is not an easy task, but it is a task that is worth it. To settle for less than you deserve is wasting potential that you truly have. Giving your all to someone who only provides you with half is not a worthwhile relationship nor is it an endeavor worth your time.
I asked a few of my closest friends what advice they would give their friends if they knew they had a friend who was settling for less than they deserve. As you read just take in their advice as well -- your friends love you and want the best for you.
First of all, you deserve better and you need to look at the situation and evaluate if this is something you really need. People have to be in your life for a reason and everyone has value. Is this person providing enough for you to be happy? Are they valuable?
"If you had a friend who was settling and you knew they deserved better what advice would you give them?"
"Take a step back and think about whether they were truly happy with themselves or if they felt like they needed another person to be happy and thus the person was a filler. And to ask themselves if they were just comfortable and afraid of starting fresh with someone else because it's easier." - R.E.S.
Regardless of what people say, sometimes it is okay to be selfish and ask for what you need. Life is short and we have to capitalize on what will make us happy. Never stay in a relationship just to preserve the other's happiness.
"If you had a friend who was settling and you knew they deserved better what advice would you give them?"
"Look at themselves and the person they are settling for to weigh the pros and cons. If they aren't happy in the relationship, they should cut ties between them to better both people. The friend deserves more than what they are getting and need to be happy in this short life. I mean, there's plenty of fish in the sea... The person shouldn't feel bad for wanting to be happy and better off over all." -A.L.I.
There is so much more out there in this big bright world and the goal is always to find the biggest and brightest future. Everyone deserves the highest level of happiness which they can accomplish.
"If you had a friend who was settling and you knew they deserved better what advice would you give them?"
"There are so many guys/girls out there and I don't want to see them settle. I know they can do so much better. That they are beautiful and have a whole bright future ahead of them and don't need that person to slow them down." -A.N.G.
Never let somebody else slow you down and think that you are less than you really are. There is so much that people love about you and your significant other should be the first to recognize all these great things.
"If you had a friend who was settling and you knew they deserved better what advice would you give them?"
"I know it's hard to see these situations as patterns but they're going to be. He/she is very charming and I know you care about him or her a lot, but I also am aware of how sincere, passionate and caring you are, and this person doesn't share those characteristics. He/she doesn't appreciate or deserve all the great things that you bring to the table." -A.R.T.
Don't be afraid of what the future holds, ever. As your friend I will always support you, but I will always be pushing for what makes you happiest. Thank you for everything you are I simply just want it to be appreciated.
"If you had a friend who was settling and you knew they deserved better what advice would you give them?"
"Don't forget that there are bigger and better things out there." -E.S.A-W.
Much Love,
The friend who simply wants what is best for you.
PS. Never forget to love yourself. It is the most important piece of your happiness.
"If you had a friend who was settling and you knew they deserved better what advice would you give them?"
"I would tell them that they should take time to truly love themselves, so that when someone came along and loved them, they would realize they weren't getting the love they deserved." -H.N.D.
