The Only Human That Should Be 'Your Person' Is You
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The Only Human That Should Be 'Your Person' Is You

You are the only person that can keep you happy all the time.

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The Only Human That Should Be 'Your Person' Is You
Kinga Cichewicz

Regardless of how old we are, or where we are in life, having people close to us always feels important. Whether it's your family, a best friend, or a significant other, it means the world when you have a support system and a best friend all in one. The thing is, it's so easy to let go of our individual navigation when we are constantly surrounded by people, including those who seem to only add positives to your life.

If you're like me, you cling to your comfort zone. Habits, normality, a schedule - they all comprise a continuing track that I fear straying away from. That being said, when there are people placed in my life that I truly get along with, my personal vision for myself is no longer a priority.

It's common that we hear best friends talking about each other being one another's "person", and don't get me wrong, it is wonderful to find a person/people that you would literally jump in front of a moving vehicle for. I know that I have a handful of people in my life that I wouldn't trade for the world and more.

However, you are the only person that you have to live with for eternity. You are the only person that can keep you happy all the time. Be best friends with yourself first; fall in love with yourself first. Get comfortable with doing what will lead you to better places.

Some may call it trust issues and other's may identify it as selfishness; it's simply neither of those things. It's building a relationship with your own self and realizing that, sure, you can't control who's going to hurt you and when, but you can control how deep it hits and how long it lingers for.

I've struggled with this for so long, and I still continue to do so. Mostly because I love loving people. I love to nurture those that I love, either that being because I'm a Cancer or a "blue personality", or simply because that's just how I am. It's a sensation that runs so deep to the core of my soul - doing things for others knowing that I made their day better, or easier, or happier.

But sometimes we fail to realize that we don't do that for ourselves. We get so caught up in the presence of others that we don't even realize when the tipping point was - the moment when we completely let go of our role in our own lives.

Placing trust in the course of life and centering life around prioritizing myself first has begun to take me farther and farther, and it's truly a breath of fresh air. You are the only person that won't let you down and that won't disappoint you ,so take pleasure in knowing that, and build your life around that.

As humans, we are made for community and for love, so this article hasn't been written to neglect or counteract the simple facts of life.

Moreover, it's a realization of that and an adjustment that will add quality to those friendships and relationships you build in the future. We are made for being around others and building a life with a significant other, but not so that you can mend into one person. And not so you can lose yourself and lose who you are independent of that other individual. It's certainly not to place the soul meaning of your life into that person, because that's when it all becomes unhealthy.

"Your person" should always be you.

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