Why Having Brothers Who Are 10+ Years Older Is A 10/10

Why Having Brothers Who Are 10+ Years Older Is A 10/10

In our family, there is no such thing as “step-brother” or “step-sister.” We are brothers and sisters, we are family.

Having older brothers is truly the best thing I ever could’ve asked for.

Most kids are close in age to their siblings. What is different about my family is that my brothers are older than my sister and I by at least 10 years. Even though we aren’t close in age, it doesn’t change our relationship.

Luckily, I don’t just have one older brother. I have three.

Growing up with my older brothers has always been something I’ve been thankful for. Having them to grow up with definitely made my childhood more entertaining. There has been so many memories we have made. No matter how old I am, I will always remember them. Each one of my brothers has influenced my life and helped make me into the person I am today.

My brothers all have contributed to my life in different ways, and I am so thankful for them. They are all so amazing and successful and I’m lucky to have them to look up to.

My brother Trip has shown me many things. When I think of Trip, I think of a hard-working, dedicated businessman. As a teenager, he started his own business and has continued to succeed as he got older, now owning multiple businesses and real estate.

Something he has taught me is “work hard, play hard." He has always been a very hard-working man. You can tell when you meet him. He works hard for what he has and because of that, he is able to have the cool things that makes him the adventurous one. Something I have always wanted to do was go jet skiing; my brother Trip made that happen. Going jet skiing with my brother will be something I will always remember and I always smile when I look back at that memory with him. Being with him is always a fun time, and I know that if I want to have fun, I can definitely go spend time with my brother Trip.

Not only is he someone I can have fun with, but he is also a great role model for me. He has shown me that I can do anything I put my mind to and that I should never give up, hard work does pay off. He has always been there for me, and I couldn’t be more grateful for him. Trip, thank you for showing me that I should work hard and to never give up on my goals. I will always be thankful for you and the things you have taught me.

My brother Chad has also been a great role model for me. When I think of Chad, I think of a loving, family man. What I have learned from Chad is that family is the most important thing in life. I have always followed that, and I agree that family is extremely important. I will never forget some of the memories me and him have shared.

Chad and I used to go to dinner every week at our favorite Italian food restaurant, and it was always something I looked forward to. Chad has been someone I have looked up to. I definitely do take after Chad when it comes to being loving, caring, and also sensitive, which isn’t a bad thing! He also is extremely hard working and has taught me to never give up for what I want. I know he is always there if I need him and supports me in whatever I do. He truly is an amazing person and has shown me that family is so important. Chad, thank you for being a loving and supporting brother and showing me what is most important in life. I will always be grateful for you and what you have taught me.

My brother Brett has also been someone I’m glad I have to look up to. Ever since the day I was born, my family has always said I am so much like my brother Brett. He and I have so much in common and it’s great that we have each other. I know if I want another piercing or I want my first tattoo, he’s the one I go to. Brett is so fun to be with. I know whenever I am down and need someone to pick me back up, I can always call him and he will somehow manage to turn my frown upside down.

Brett is a marine, like my dad, so he has learned to never give up and he knows that no matter how hard things can get, you are strong enough to get through it. He has taught me the things that he has learned in his life, and is always there for great advice. He always assures me that I can get through the tough times, and has shown me that I AM strong enough to get through any challenges that might come my way. He has shown me that I can do anything I put my mind to. Brett, thank you for always being such an amazing brother and friend. I can’t thank you enough for all you have done for me.

Each one of my brothers has influenced my life in a positive way. They have all shown me how to work hard, love their family and to be a great person.

In our family, there is no such thing as “step-brother” or “step-sister." We are brothers and sisters, we are family. I appreciate everything my brothers have done for me and the things they have shown me as I have grown up. I am fortunate enough to have 3 supportive brothers!

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15 Things You Realize As Your Baby Brother Grows Up

No matter how old he gets, he will always be your baby brother.

Despite the fistfights and days of locking each other out of the house, a little brother is one of the biggest blessings you can receive. Most sisters can agree that they probably bossed their brothers around a lot when they were younger (and probably still do). Most sisters have also most likely forced their brothers to participate in many games that were only enjoyable for one party (baby dolls, house, dress up, etc.)

As a little brother grows up, you start to realize a lot of things as they become your lifelong best friend. Here are 15 of them:

1. He will outgrow you

Even though you were once able to beat him in a wrestling match, and have a fair game of tag, as you get older, he begins to pass you up in size and you realize it probably isn't in your best interest to pick a fight.

2. Teenage boy sass is a real thing

So many times, girls get a bad rep for the teenage phase, but let me tell you, teenage boys have just as much sass if not more than the average hormonal girl. But you also realize that you will get through it, and he is still your sweet brother somewhere deep, deep down.

3. He will go through a phase when he is too cool for you

Your whole life you have been used to your little brother looking up to you and wanting to be just like you and do all the things you do. This probably really annoyed you at some point too and I know I found the words "stop copying me" coming out of my mouth a lot. Don't wish it away, enjoy these times because there hits a point where he will want to do their own thing for a while.

4. He will begin to form his own opinions, and he is actually really smart

He still looks up to you, but there comes a time when he actually starts to contradict and challenge your opinions, and his arguments are surprisingly really good. You learn a lot from your little brother, so start listening to what they have to say sometimes.

5. No girl will ever be good enough for him

When he brings a girl home, you can't help but judge everything about her (no pressure) because to you, no girl will match up to his awesomeness. You know you are annoying, over-controlling, and overly judgmental, but you can't help it, he is your baby brother after all.

6. Regardless of how old or big he gets, if anyone messes with him, you will "beat them up"

I am not a fighter, but somehow anytime someone messes with my little brother, I get the ego of Muhammed Ali and believe that I can beat anyone up. Even now that he has outgrown me by about six inches and 50 pounds and is definitely a lot stronger than me, I still threaten to protect him because for some reason I feel like I can defend him better than he can himself. If anyone shoves him on the soccer field or says something mean to him at school, all of the sudden the big sister is the most intimidating and feisty little 5'4" girl there is out there.

7. He has your back

The once quiet and shy boy you outspoke as a child is not afraid to stand up for you. Even if he knows you're wrong, he is just as protective of you as you are of him and he will always be there for you whether you need a shoulder to cry on, you've had a fight with your friends and need someone to talk to, or a guy blows you off and you just need dairy queen and a movie night.

8. People will think he is your boyfriend and vice versa

As little kids, you were obviously the big sister, but now that he has outgrown you, hit puberty and matured, people mistake him as your boyfriend all the time. When you go to dinner and get the "you are such a cute couple" comment, you can't help but laugh.

9. All of his academic success is obviously all thanks to you

All the days you forced him to play "school" with you and tried to teach him everything you knew paid off because he actually knows what he is doing now. You're welcome.

10. Every year he turns another year older, you freak out because you remember how old you felt when you were his age, and it is not possible for him to be that old

No, no, no. He is little. He cannot drive just because he is 16. That is scary. [Only you were mature enough and ready to drive at 16.] There is no way that he is already 18 and can vote. You will never get used to the fact that he is growing up at the same pace as you are.

11. He is the one person who defies your theory that you are never wrong

He always has your best interests in mind, so if he disapproves of a guy, or questions a choice you are making, he is most likely right, just listen to him. Seriously, it will save you time in the future.

12. You will always worry about him

Yes, you are annoying and you know he can handle himself, but the thought of him ever getting hurt kills you. Every time he goes out or takes a risk, you worry about him. However, you also know and trust that he is smart and makes good choices, and if he ever doesn't, you will always be here to save the day, duh!

13. You are his biggest fan

And you are absolutely obnoxious at sporting games and other events. You are the first person to yell at the referee when he gets fouled and the loudest person screaming when he scores a goal. You also find yourself bragging about him to your friends because you are just so proud, and you taught him everything he knows (duh again).

14. He is your best friend

You can tell him anything and he can tell you anything. You guys have a pact and he won't tell your secrets. He's your person, and you have come to find out that he actually gives great advice when you give him the chance to talk.

15. No matter how old he gets, he will always be your baby brother

No matter how old my brother gets, we still say "I love you" every night and he will always be my little baby brother who I watch over and protect, always. I know I have a lifelong best friend who I can lean on during hard times, and celebrate with when the times are good. Bless up.

Special shoutout to my baby brother, Luke, for teaching me so much about myself and always being there for me.

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When You Give A Boy An Older Brother, You Change Just About Everything

The dynamic relationship changes more than you could know.


Being a younger sibling, I fit the typical stereotype: annoying, constantly following my brother around, wanting to do everything with him and constantly instigating fights. That's the job of little brothers though, right? Anyway, my brother and I are six years apart. When I was growing up, we never got along. At one point I swear we may have hated each other. Although, as times changed, we grew closer and closer.

With my brother and I being six years apart, we never were able to have the same friend groups...or so he thought. Whenever his friends would come over, I would instantly throw myself into whatever they were doing. I would like to think that most of his friends enjoyed my presence because I keep in touch with some of them today, but ultimately my brother hated that my 6-year-old self couldn't find my own friends to hang out with.

The fights that brothers have are a step up from screaming matches that sisters may have. Once I was old enough to actually agitate and argue with my brother, the infamous brother beatings came into play. I remember running away from him around the house during summer break while my parents were at work. He would catch me, give me a few swift hits or trap me with a pillow and tell me not to do whatever I did ever again. When I was younger, he scared me to no end, but now that I've grown up they're just more memories to laugh at.

Having an older brother also teaches you some skills. Like what to do and what not to do, and how to get away with things that I shouldn't be doing. Since my brother was six years older than me, I was able to watch him go through high school while I was in elementary school. This taught me the in and outs of high school before I was even in middle school. Watching him taught me ways to hide things from my parents without getting in trouble (sorry Mom and Dad). Whether he realizes it or not, I watched his every move growing up, and I have learned endless amounts from my brother.

The one downside (sometimes upside) of having a brother is the, "Oh, you're Kyle's little brother" statement. When you grow up in a town as small as mine, you can count on everyone to know who your older siblings are. They expect you to either be exactly like them or be the opposite of them.

At the end of the day, I feel extremely blessed to have my older brother. I may have prayed a few times to be an only child when I was little, but I now know that an older brother is a blessing. He's your best friend and protector no matter how old you get. My brother is always there (after about four phone calls sent to voicemail), and he's always ready to jump in on a fight if he needs to. I've learned to love all of his flaws, like how he can talk your ear off for four days straight or how he takes things without asking. I've learned to never take our unique and dynamic relationship for granted because he truly is my best friend till I die. Like my dad always told us, "Cherish your brother. When your parents are gone, you two are all you'll have left."

So, Kyle, this one's for you.

P.S. Stop wearing my clothes.


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