Nobody is important enough to ruin your life over. There are millions of people in this world. You thought you would never love or like someone as much as at least three times before. You can find someone who isn’t a douchebag.

I have had a friend that absolutely would not leave her demon of a boyfriend because she felt like she wouldn’t find anybody else that would put up with her. She put up with this for years. The only time they were getting along is if they were sleeping together. He made her feel like everything was her fault, and that she deserved to be treated badly. He convinced her that she was not good enough for anyone else and that he was the best thing she has ever had.

This is absolutely untrue. People who care about you would never intentionally hurt you. You do not hurt the people you love. Emotional abuse is still abuse.

I understand that we put up with a lot of BS whenever we love someone. We as human beings will put up with just about anything just to have a sense of worth. But we find ourselves getting confused about what love is. There is a difference between love and manipulation.

Stop putting up with people that treat you poorly because you feel like you can’t find anyone else. Stop selling yourself short of what you deserve. Stop letting irrelevant ass people define your worth. You are so much more than that. If you have had your run, then you’ve had your run. If it didn’t work out, then that might be what’s best for you. Sometimes things not working out can be our saving grace from pain in the long run.

If they can’t take responsibility for their actions, stay away. Stay away from those that make you feel bad for being angry whenever they have done something wrong. Loyalty can eventually turn into slavery if you are not careful.

It seems as if we are drawn to people who treat us badly. We settle for less than what we deserve. We become so absorbed in other’s problems where we don’t have time to solve our own.

From a young age, we are taught to believe we are unworthy; we believe we are guilty and wrong. We carry these wounds with us and into our relationships, and we let it manipulate us.

Don’t try to force an unhealthy relationship to work. I promise that you will find someone who treats you how you deserve to be treated. If you are unhappy, then something is wrong. A relationship is supposed to make your life better. You are supposed to uplift and support each other. You will know when a relationship is for you because it will enhance your life, not complicate it.

Sometimes, you just can’t fix things. No matter how badly we want things to be good and to work out, it’s just not worth it at times. People have to be willing to change. You should not have to convince anyone to respect you. Your sanity is way more important than driving yourself crazy trying to fix something that is way beyond your control.