The saying goes “Nice guys finish last.” This isn’t a very nice saying. It implies negative things about both the guys and girls of this generation. For us girls, it implies that we are only interested in the bad boys who treat us like dirt. For guys, it implies that if they want to succeed, they need to treat girls like dirt.
I’m not here to deny that this saying has some validity in today’s culture. In fact, I have read scientific studies that show that females are attracted to “bad boys” and would choose one over a “nice guy” in her life. It’s hard for me to deny this trend in my own life and the lives I’ve been able to observe around me.
I’m not here to stick up for the ladies and say “we always appreciate and want the nice guy.” I’m also not here to deny that the bad boy gets the most ladies and at a quicker speed than those nice guys.
What I am here to do is encourage the nice guys. I want to argue that the nice guys, although they may finish last, finish best.
Let me explain: the nice guys deserve better than the girls who fall hard and fast for those bad boys.
This may be slightly taboo to say in this culture. I grew up being taught that girls deserve to be treated well and that guys need to treat the girls this way in order to deserve their affections. I don’t disagree that girls should respect themselves and demand to be treated with some level of respect. How could I? I’m a big sister who wants her sister to demand such things. I do disagree that all girls deserve a nice guy.
Why? The nice guys deserve better than the girls who are going for the bad boys. If a nice guy is willing to sacrifice for his girl and is willing to work really hard to treat her right, he is deserving of adoration and respect from that girl. He deserves better than the girls chasing the bad boys. Those girls are immature, and they don’t respect themselves enough to stop bad boys from walking all over them. How could those girls give the nice guy the respect he deserves?
Nice guys ultimately finish best because they don’t end up with the insecure, immature girl who falls for bad boys. No, the nice guy ends up with a confident, mature lady who knows how to not only respect herself but also how to appreciate her man. Nice guys win because they end up with good girls.
So fellas, don’t give up. You might not find a good girl for a while or your good girl might be refining herself right now. You’ll end up finishing best.
Ladies, don’t expect to be treated right by the bad boy you fall for. The nice guy will treat you right when you deserve it.
