Your Only New Year's Resolution Should Be To Do What Makes YOU Happy

Your Only New Year's Resolution Should Be To Do What Makes YOU Happy

We always here it, but what does it mean?
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We always see quotes that say, "Do more of what makes you happy." Yet, how many times do we just get stuck into doing things we don't want to? I don't mean things like going to work or typing that 5-page essay. Here, I'm talking about being friends with people who are of no benefit to you, focusing too much on the opinions of others, and being less focused on what you actually want to do.

This New Years, start doing what makes you happy. Start saying no when you want to say no. Start saying yes when you want to say yes. Start doing what you truly want to do, start doing what makes YOU happy.

Too often, we don't actually do what we want to do. We say yes to something we don't want to do, we hang out with people we don't want to hang out with, and we do things that are of no benefit to us. Too often, I think it's because we are worried about upsetting others and making others unhappy. It's hard because we want to make others happy; we want to be there for other people and help other people; however, it's very easy to sink into a process of neglecting yourself and focusing too much on other people. This New Years, focus on yourself and do what makes you happy. Stop allowing negative people steal your energy, and stop allowing other people to change your mood and happiness.

I know I'm not the only one who struggles with this, and I'll be the first to say it is very difficult for me to focus on myself sometimes because I truly care so much about other people. I always want to help people, even if it makes me lose sleep or takes up too much time. Even though there is nothing wrong with helping others, sometimes I let myself be too focused on others and their happiness instead of my own.

This year I have decided that I really want to do more of what makes me happy. I want to say no to going to that late night movie if I'm tired. I'm going to say no to hanging out with someone who is of no benefit to me. I'm going to stop being friends with people that aren't worth my time or energy, and I'm going to let go of the people who have let go of me. I'm going to focus on me. I'm going to focus on school, my career, my friends that are worth my time, and the hobbies I enjoy doing.

This year, make 2018 the year you want. Do what makes you happy. Spend alone time when you need it, and spend time with friends when you need it. Let go of the people who have hurt you, and let them be who they want to be. Go out when you want to go out, and stay in when you want to stay in. Do what makes you happy, even if that means letting people go, and making others unhappy. In the end, your happiness is what matters.

Do what makes you happy. Regardless of the opinions and judgments of others, do what makes you happy and live your life the way you want to. You have one life to live, make it count. Make yourself happy.

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An Open Letter To The Girl Trying To Get Healthy Again

"I see you eating whatever you want and not exercising" - Pants
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Dear girl trying to get back in shape,

I know it's hard. I know the hardest thing you may do all day is walk into the gym. I know how easy it is to want to give up and go eat Chicken McNuggets, but don't do it. I know it feels like you work so hard and get no where. I know how frustrating it is to see that person across the table from you eat a Big Mac every day while you eat your carrots and still be half of your size. I know that awful feeling where you don't want to go to the gym because you know how out of shape you are. Trust me, I know.

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The important thing is you are doing something about it. I'm sure you get mad at yourself for letting your body get this out of shape, but life happens. You have made a huge accomplishment by not having a soda in over a month, and those small changes are huge. I understand how hard it is, I understand how frustrating it is to not see results and I understand why you want to give up. Being healthy and fit takes so much time. As much as I wish you could wake up the day after a good workout with the 6 pack of your dreams, that just isn't the reality. If being healthy was easy, everyone would do it, and it wouldn't feel so good when you got there.

Remember how last January your resolution was to get back in the gym and get healthy again? Think about how incredible you would look right now if you would have stuck with it. The great thing is that you can start any time, and you can prove yourself wrong.

Tired of starting over? Then don't give up.

You are only as strong as your mind. You will get there one day. Just be patient and keep working.

Nothing worth having comes easy. If you want abs more than anything, and one day you woke up with them, it wouldn't be nearly as satisfying as watching your body get stronger.

Mental toughness is half the battle. If you think you are strong, and believe you are strong, you will be strong. Soon, when you look back on the struggle and these hard days, you will be so thankful you didn't give up.

Don't forget that weight is just a number. What is really important is how you feel, and that you like how you look. But girl, shout out to you for working on loving your body, because that shit is hard.

To the girl trying to get healthy again, I am so proud of you. It won't be easy, it will take time. But keep working out, eating right, and just be patient. You will be amazed with what your body is capable of doing.

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No Matter What, Do Not Be Afraid to Express Yourself

Do not be afraid to stand for what you believe in no matter how many are against it.

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The most prevalent trait that I have carried throughout my entire life is the inability to express my thoughts and emotions. Even on paper, I feel like I can never fully get out what is hoarding my brain. It's kind of cool to have some things about my self that I only know but it can become extremely unhealthy to keep everything locked inside and never telling others how I truly feel. The more I keep in, the more isolated and lonely I feel.

I know I am not alone in this and that many struggle with it. The most extroverted people you know could be hiding the most.

One of the reasons people find it hard to express themselves is due to the fear of judgment from others. No one wants to get hurt or feel ashamed. So, just saying nothing, hiding everything that makes you stand out from the rests is a great way to make sure that doesn't happen.

But really, in the end, does it really matter what bunch of people who are struggling just the same think about your weird characteristics. No. Be goofy, stand up for what matters to you most and know that there is always someone out there who loves you for you.

Another reason we like to keep things hidden is that we don't think our opinion matters. There so many times in my life that I kept my mouth shut either because I was too afraid, did not want to put attention on myself, I did not think what I had to say was different than everybody else, or I just thought that it did not matter what I had to say.

Sometimes its okay not to always state your opinion on everything but in other cases it could really benefit others if you did. Your opinion could be just what someone needs to hear to comfort them or shed light on a situation. You could also see a different side of something that someone was trying to think of but couldn't.

If you do not express yourself and what you believe in you start to mold into the ones around. You start to do things that you do not believe in just because you are too afraid to tell others how you really feel. Its okay not to have the same values and beliefs as others.

Expressing yourself can also build a substantial amount of courage. It takes bravery to announce not only your beliefs but just your own personality. People will admire your ability to not care what the world around you thinks.

The world is a scary placed filled that scorns against anything that stands out, but that's okay, be yourself anyway. Maybe by being yourself you can impact and inspire those around you.

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