Negative energy and negative thoughts are a waste of head space. Yes, they are almost always there; yes, shit happens, but how we choose to look at each of those situations, both collectively and as a whole, is what determines the magnitude of their impact on our lives. Like it or not, there will always be an impact. But the inevitability does not necessarily mean negativity. The impact could cause a crater, yes. But isn't it just as likely that it could create something beautiful? Something we did not know could happen? Who are we to sit in our negativity, to cause ourselves needless struggles and pain, when we could strive to take that negativity and making something positive out of it?
Speaking from personal experience, it is possible to change the way we think and the way we look at the experiences we have lived through. What was once a black mark on our subconscious can be reversed into a clean slate given the right motivations and positive thinking. Not everything can be reversed, but we will never know unless we try. I have spoken with so many who choose to be miserable and choose to wallow. And while sometimes we need to wallow and revel in our own self pity, there comes a point where we need to get out of bed, put on pants, walk out the door, and face a new day. There comes a moment when we need to move on in order to survive. If we let ourselves stay in catatonic states of despair, if we let the negativity rule over all that we are, then we loose ourselves into it and no longer know who we are away from it.
And is that really any way to live? Can we really expect to ever remotely resemble any form of happiness if we cannot shed our negative energies? Is it OK that those times exist? Of course! Those times are important and even needed in order to grow and developed as human beings. But is it worth losing yourself over? No. Everything can be worked through given the right tools and companions to help along the way. Even though we may never be the same again, even though our personalities will be inevitably altered, we get to choose what kind of change that is. We have the opportunity to determine whether or not we are going to let the negativity in a situation take root in our person and become who we are.
Take a photograph, for instance. When you take a photo with a camera, that photo starts out as a negative photo: the colors are distorted and it is hard to imagine a decent picture ever coming out of that mess. However, if all we ever saw of the photograph was the negative, we would miss the beautiful colors that develop over time into the amazing shots we see given time. The same can be said for life. Give it time, and the beauty will begin to show, slowly at first, but will develop into a full fledged picture that is full of color and life. Positivity is everywhere, even in negative situations. All you have to do is look for it.
