So you are for sure thinking, well I'm not really lost I have my ish together, I'll just kill some time and read this article because eh maybe I will enjoy it, or she has some humor in her writing (I try my best) either way I hope you find your happiness whether it's from deep down or binge eating pizza, I haven't found a difference.

Now let's get one thing straight, "lost" doesn't mean wandering around clueless, just may have strayed a little off path. Or maybe you are completely clueless and I don't think there is one thing wrong with, and being one big ball of emotions. You barely know who you are and so much can change in as little as one year, so why rush into anything you're unsure of? I know for me personally that I was a mess and didn't decide I was going to face it until my small little problems turned into a huge mess and then I did what everyone wants to do, but usually doesn't actually do; I ran. I ran from all my problems and responsibilities and as fast as I could, unfortunately I didn't get very far because I am surrounded by friends and family who love and support me and I believe God has a different plan for me than to spend my life running and being afraid. I've spent a great deal of time looking for the easy way out and the easy way out doesn't exist, but the good news is once you find that balance it gets a lot easier than you could've ever imagined.

So what was I so afraid of? What are you so afraid of? I've come down to a few conclusions in my experiences. Well for one thing it's always easier to ignore our problems and act like they will just disappear without using any magic. Second, if you get too comfortable in where you are in that point in your life whether you are really happy or not, you won't have a lot of will or motivation to change anything because you're simply just getting by. And it works for now so why make things all different and change them, even if it could make you 10 times happier? Because we are women, and we are stubborn and a lot of us won't admit this but we HATE change. I don't mean little changes, I mean like when you get "comfortable" in your daily routine, and then one day something doesn't go right like you're late for work, your coffee tastes weird or you don't get coffee (don't ever cross me on that day, its truly horrifying,) or whatever it may be it was a little change that actually affected your every day to day. It's always easier to wear the latest trends, but way bolder to stand out. So how about giving the underdog a chance and take a shot on being happy? It won't be easy, but wanting it as bad as we all do is a big enough first step so take it!

Graduated high school, I did it. Went to college for a few years and then decided I needed some time off, not apart of the plan but I did it. Joined a sorority, only to find out it was not at all what I thought it would be, good and bad reasons, but I did it. I wish more than anything that I would've been there a year ago to slap myself and chill out. I thought for sure my world was falling apart and it turns out that nothing could be better than the way it is now and no it's no where even close to being perfect and I would never want it that way, but I couldn't ask for much more now.

Everyone's story is different, some longer than others, but at the end of the day we are all human and we have hearts. Don't let a relationship or even a breakup define you, don't take life too seriously. Just be you and you will find that everything else will slowly just fall in place where it is supposed to.