What To Do When Your Best Friend Is Absent

What To Do When Your Best Friend Is Absent

How to love and treat yourself like a best friend would.

We've all had that one friend that made us feel like the best version of ourselves. I know for me, that friend was the support system I needed to get through my worst times and was critical enough to knock me down when I was too hotheaded. The single con to having a friend like that is that sometimes, they unfortunately won't always be there for you. That's why you need to learn to be your own best friend; be there for yourself, learn to congratulate yourself, learn to scold yourself, but most importantly, learn to love yourself. I know you're thinking that you've got a handle on that, but the truth is that we all could benefit from some personal growth.

First and foremost, supporting yourself and believing in your abilities will get you farther than any other person could. You are your source of empowerment, but can also be the reason for your own destruction. By channeling your energy and remaining positive, even when everything else around you points otherwise, you can overcome anything.

Additionally, you need to be able to congratulate yourself and have pride in your accomplishments. Yeah, there's always that one guy (or gal) that rides that bus too long, but never be ashamed of your successes. Be humble, be kind, but also be able to accept applause and praise. By doing so, you will feel fulfillment in your performance and that will only perpetuate greatness.

On the contrary, you also need to know when to scold yourself. Maybe it's that late night slice of pizza you ate when you should have been sleeping, or acknowledging the existence of the ex you swore you'd never speak to, learning to hold yourself responsible for your actions will only propel you into a happy and healthy lifestyle. Placing blame onto a situation or someone else does nothing for you and can eventually turn those you care for away from you. Again, you are the only one who controls your actions, and by allowing yourself to be and do the things you despise will lead to you disliking the person you've become. But the fact is, you haven't become anything, for there's still time for you to change.

Love yourself. Through everything, good and bad, you need to learn to love yourself. While I mentioned the fact that you need to be able to hold yourself accountable, you must always love yourself. Positivity breeds positive results, and the foundation of change lies within you. When you make a mistake, because we all do, get back up and brush it off. A mistake is only a mistake if you don't learn something from it, and there's something to be learned from everyone and everything you encounter. No matter what you've done or who you wish you could be, be grateful for every breath you take and every morning you wake up to, because imagine how different this world would be without your very best friend, you.

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5 Perks Of Having A Long-Distance Best Friend

The best kind of long-distance relationship.

Sometimes, people get annoyed when girls refer to multiple people as their "best friend," but they don't understand. We have different types of best friends. There's the going out together best friend, the see each other everyday best friend and the constant, low maintenance best friend.

While I'm lucky enough to have two out of the three at the same school as me, my "low maintenance" best friend goes to college six hours from Baton Rouge.

This type of friend is special because no matter how long you go without talking or seeing each other, you're always insanely close. Even though I miss her daily, having a long-distance best friend has its perks. Here are just a few of them...

1. Getting to see each other is a special event.

Sometimes when you see someone all the time, you take that person and their friendship for granted. When you don't get to see one of your favorite people very often, the times when you're together are truly appreciated.

2. You always have someone to give unbiased advice.

This person knows you best, but they probably don't know the people you're telling them about, so they can give you better advice than anyone else.

3. You always have someone to text and FaceTime.

While there may be hundreds of miles between you, they're also just a phone call away. You know they'll always be there for you even when they can't physically be there.

4. You can plan fun trips to visit each other.

When you can visit each other, you get to meet the people you've heard so much about and experience all the places they love. You get to have your own college experience and, sometimes, theirs, too.

5. You know they will always be a part of your life.

If you can survive going to school in different states, you've both proven that your friendship will last forever. You both care enough to make time for the other in the midst of exams, social events, and homework.

The long-distance best friend is a forever friend. While I wish I could see mine more, I wouldn't trade her for anything.

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You Don't Need A 'Bikini Body' To Fully Love Yourself This Summer

You don't need to be stick-thin to feel good about your body.


One of my favorite quotes of all time is, "Comparison is the thief of joy." Want to know why? Because it's true.

I could look in the mirror one day and feel totally confident about myself. Then I'll see a post on Instagram of some beautiful girl, feel awful, and wonder why I don't look like that. But there's a reason I don't look like that — because I'm me, not them.

The fact of the matter is that we need to love ourselves for who we are. We need to stop comparing our beauty to that of others. We are all our own people and we should feel confident in our beauty.

Bikini season is a major source of struggle for me and many others. Everyone is lounging on the beach in bikinis and you feel like you just want to hide under your towel. Every other photo on your social media is a super skinny girl from high school showing off her body. You will NEVER see a photo of me in a bikini on social media because I'm simply not comfortable in my body enough to show it off like that. I have always wished that I was, but at the same time, that's not who I am.

You don't need to be stick thin to feel good about your body. Every body is beautiful, and we need to embrace that. If we constantly look to others as a source of comparison, we will literally never be happy in our own skin.

Bikini season is tough as it is, don't make it tougher on yourself by allowing your mind to take over. Enjoy your spring break, enjoy your summer, enjoy your life. You deserve it. You deserve happiness.

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