Moving On: My Lesson in Belonging to Myself for Hope and Motivation
Start writing a post
Health and Wellness

Moving On: My Lesson in Belonging to Myself for Hope and Motivation

A take on what it is that keeps us going once we get started

174
Moving On: My Lesson in Belonging to Myself for Hope and Motivation
Trey Tompkins

It's not about getting started that concerns my motivation. The question is, "What is going to keep me going once I get started?" I have done a lot in life that I didn't want to do, spent a lot of time trying to please others in the hope that my ambitions would be supplied at some point. This drains.

I have been at the low points, points in which I questioned existence and even accepted death as a better alternative in those moments. Working at a job that I had complete disdain for, regretting choices I had made in the past, and not making connections with people around me in a new area- these were all a culmination for a complete re-evaluation in my life.

What was keeping me alive? What thought was it that was keeping me alive? It was family. I couldn't imagine the grief my family would suffer if something tragic were to happen to me. That was my motivation and what I had to work with. From there, I focused entirely on cutting out anything that did not help that and moved on.

This is what brings us hope. Living today with the ability to move on. If we get stuck thinking about making full promises we missed yesterday, or fulfilling expectations that we swear will happen tomorrow, then surely we will live disappointed for missing out on the parallels of the day. Promise today, but never swear tomorrow because yesterday never came.

What have I moved onto? Belonging. This is what many of us are in search of. I craved family because it taught me belonging. I learned this before I even learned language. It is largely a part of who we all already are. We belong to each other, but just as importantly, we belong to ourselves.

In search of belonging, I have found many people who are lost and suffering; afraid to ask or too afraid to say "This hurts" or " I hurt". Open up. Let it be known. Don't do this through pretense or wanting a quick fix, it will only exacerbate the issue even deeper.

My lesson has been that vulnerability is our strength. Our hope is not of solid structure, but more so of a loose, intangible nature that is accessible through a delicate force of will. So subtle this force is. It is not obvious. Not with a lot of chaotic noise. It is obvious through attunement to our intention and desire to belong.

Report this Content
This article has not been reviewed by Odyssey HQ and solely reflects the ideas and opinions of the creator.
Featured

'Hotel Transylvania: Transformania' Film Review

Solid animation can't raise the newest entry in Sony's colorful monster series beyond the basics

42655
'Hotel Transylvania: Transformania' Film Review
Photo Credit: Amazon Prime Video – YouTube https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6suJohjIvfo

I take a slight issue with the idea that Adam Sandler didn’t have a good dramatic role until ‘Uncut Gems,’ what about ‘Hotel Transylvania’ (he says semi-seriously)?’

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

4 Common Reasons Couples Get Divorced

Are some people just not meant to be together? Is there any way to prevent an impending divorce?

75891
4 Common Reasons Couples Get Divorced

We've all heard the statistics. Roughly 50% of married couples eventually end up divorced. This can lead to complications, problems with your children, financial issues, and no small amount of negative emotions.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

​Pets are Good for the Soul

Millions of Americans have found comfort in pet ownership. The media has been awash with stories about a surge in pet ownership, as Americans have taken advantage of the ability of pets to improve emotional well-being.

74668
Good for the Soul
Pets are Good for the Soul

America is going through a mental health crisis. This crisis predates the global pandemic, but has in many ways been dramatically exacerbated by it. In 2019, 19.86% of adults, or 50 million Americans, reported suffering from a mental illness. The emotional toll of the pandemic has been heavy, with over half of U.S. adults saying that they have experienced stress and worry related to Covid-19. Anxieties over work, uncertainty about the future and other triggers have intensified the mental health crisis. Millions of Americans have found comfort in pet ownership. The media has been awash with stories about a surge in pet ownership, as Americans have taken advantage of the ability of pets to improve emotional well-being.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

How Your Sleep Position Affects Your Health?

You changed into your pajamas, turn off the lights, and get yourself ready to sleep. How do you prefer to sleep, on the back, on your side, or on your tummy? Although there’s no scientific result that sleeping position affects your back, here are some interesting facts that have been discovered.

180624
Sleep Position

You changed into your pajamas, turn off the lights, and get yourself ready to sleep. How do you prefer to sleep, on the back, on your side, or on your tummy? Although there’s no scientific result that sleeping position affects your back, here are some interesting facts that have been discovered.

Keep Reading... Show less
Featured

How to Throw the Ultimate Winter Bash

As the year starts to come to an end, make sure you find the time to have some fun as well.

123656
Ultimate Winter Bash

As the year starts to come to an end, make sure you find the time to have some fun as well.

Keep Reading... Show less
Facebook Comments