I just wish I could rewind time and tell my younger self "he will never be right for you."

Five years down the drain, five years of trying to fix a heart I didn't break, five years of emotional abuse, sacrificing opportunities and giving so much of myself to the point where I felt empty. He took so much of me I felt like I had nothing left, trying to catch my breath and hyperventilating with nothing to show but of series of ignored calls and built up lies. I literally could not breathe, I felt like I was drowning. My mind couldn't take that it was really happening, he really moved on, he really had someone else, he was no longer mine. But I should of let go a long time ago, and I was trying my best to get up off my cold kitchen floor covering my mouth as I hysterically cried so nobody could hear me.

With a tequila bottle in hand, I realized I should have known. I should have known that it always ends the same. You'll never be right for the wrong person. Letting go is a process, you can't just wake up and stop loving someone. It's not easy but time really does heal all wounds.

1. Take time for yourself.

Don't just hop into bed with the first guy that tells you you're beautiful. Sex doesn't heal emotional scars, it's almost like a drug you feel a high in the moment, but once you come crashing down you end up in more pain than you began with. It's about learning to fall so deeply in love with you, that you no longer need someone to complete you. With that being said: Get a makeover, change up your hairstyle, get a mani/pedi, start going to the gym, do a little shopping, it's all about treating and pampering yourself at this time. I promise you will feel a 1000X better.

2. Reconnect with old friends/associates.

In many relationships, you start spending so much time with your significant other, you start distancing yourself from a lot of people. In order to avoid the sense of loneliness and the wave of sadness that hits you because you lost such a significant part of your life, start going out more. Don't be afraid to reach out to old friends and reconnect with old classmates. What helped me through my hardest moments was girls nights. Whether it was going out for a drink with my work bestie, or doing paint nites with my college roommate I could always count on them for a good laugh. Also, find a hobby to distract yourself from going to a dark place, sign up for that dance or kickboxing class. You have to learn to think positive, we only get one life. Might as well live it to the fullest.

3. Casual dating.

The most difficult part is seeing someone new. Don't rush to jump back into another relationship. See a few different people. Figure out what you want and what you don't want. Have fun with it and venture out of your comfort zone. Tinder isn't all bad (my coworker made me make one). But yeah anyway, the right person will come along in time.

4. Don't go back.

Don't ever go back to your ex, it's putting yourself in a dark hole that you feel like you can't escape. Trust me, it'll start off great but it will always end the same exact way. With you getting hurt, and having to pick yourself up all over again. It's not worth it.

5. Your next relationship.

Don't ever compare him to your ex. Carrying over the baggage from your past, will ruin the relationship. They're two completely different people. Use the lessons you learned from your past relationship in order to make this one last. Before you know it your ex will just become a distant memory and you'll just look back and smile. Everyone comes in our life for a reason, to teach us something, to help us grow as a person, but when it's not meant to be it's not meant to be. Going through heartbreak just makes you that much stronger.