- Accept the Pain
This is one of the hardest things for humans to do. We go through life thinking it will always be easy and happy. THIS IS NOT TRUE. In order for you to grow and move on you need to feel and accept this pain. You cannot just mask your feelings of pain, for this will only make everything worse in the long run. You can run from your pain but you most definitely can’t hide from your pain. TRUST ME. I know it hurts so badly and you just want to cry and scream! SO DO EXACTLY THAT. This will help you heal and move on. Pain is like getting a tattoo, it hurts during but it does not last forever.
2. Give Yourself Time
After a bad breakup, you may want to run into somebody’s arms right away. This is dangerous and always almost ends badly. You need to take time on yourself and know that this needs time to heal. You are vulnerable right now and still hurting, you need to let this wound heal before you move on to a new partner. Rebounds are almost nothing more than that, JUST A REBOUND. Even if you see your ex is “happy” with somebody new, you need to realize that is just a show. Be strong and independent!!! Instead of trying to love somebody else learn to love yourself.
3. Find The “GOOD” In “GOODBYE”
This is one of the hardest things to do when you’re in such an emotional state. Realize that in life we would not grow as people without change. It is your ex’s loss that they could not see your value, or maybe it just was not the right time for you to be together. Once this pain is over you will be a changed person for the better. You are not broken but rather you are just bent! God does not give you pain that you can’t handle. Great things are about to come into your life so soon. When one door closes that means a window is opening. Go out meet new people and HAVE FUN!
4. Don’t Have Regrets
You may be feeling a lot of regret about the ending of your relationship. “How could I have done something differently?” “What if I didn’t do this..?” These could be questions you are thinking over and over. Realize that the past is in the past and you can’t change what happened. No magic will change that it happened. You have to accept that this happened for a reason and that it is okay. Do not let these comments belittle you and bring your confidence down. Take all of that energy and turn it into a time to reflect and grow. The world is not perfect and nobody in it is perfect either.
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6. Don’t Contact
It is so hard to go from talking to your ex every day to not talking at all, trust me I know. But you must give your ex time to think and process this as well. Begging and crying to them will only make things much worse in the end, especially if you want to get back together. Give them space to figure out what makes them happy and if that is you they know where to find you. If they feel the need to talk to you then THEY will. Do not force anything, especially in the first couple of weeks.
7. If It Is Meant To Be It Will Be
Right now you could possibly be wanting your ex back and thinking about every possible way to do so. Do not force anything right now. Just realize that you broke up for one reason or another and you need to both have space to figure it out. If you were meant to be together IT WILL HAPPEN. In one way or another, it will work out. If your ex is moved on and happy without you then be happy for them! Now you can move on with your life too and be happy! You can’t force happiness on anybody.
