Why Making Friends In College Feels Exactly Like Kindergarten

Why Making Friends In College Feels Exactly Like Kindergarten

Minus the playdates and juice boxes, of course.

Anticipating my freshman year of college, I was extremely nervous about making new friends. Sure, the course load and living quarters were stressful as well, but I found myself fixating the most on the possibility of having no one to share it with and confide in.

Having gone to the same school my entire life, I had never been thrown into a situation where I didn't know anyone and was completely on my own. Most of my friends I had known since elementary school, and some even from kindergarten.

In those days, all I had to do was learn that the girl I sat next to had the same favorite color as me or we lived close to one another and we would be best friends by recess. That very same day, she would give me her home phone number and our moms would plan a play date for us after school, complete with snacks and juice boxes. We would ride our Razor Scooters around the cul-de-sac for hours as if we had known each other for years rather than days.

To my surprise, I've found that making friends in college is not all that different after all. Asking someone their favorite color is actually just about as effective as it was in my kindergarten days, especially if we have the same one. Living close to one another, too, is still a bonding experience, especially when they agree that "water ice" and "hoagie" are the correct lingo. Unfortunately, there's no recess to look forward to, but breaks between class are just as good, if not better, for making friends. It isn't weird to ask someone to hang out that same day, either, because they're just as new as you are (although I wouldn't recommend having your mom set up the play date via landline). Snacks and juice boxes aren't completely out of the question either, although a trip to the dining hall or a coffee shop might be preferable.

Unfortunately, I have yet to locate either a Razor Scooter or cul-de-sac on campus. Yet, as I find myself celebrating my "weekiversary" with my new friends, it feels as though we've known each other much longer.

Being thrown into a new environment with no one you know can be extremely scary. Fortunately enough, this is just as new to all of the people around you, just like it was in kindergarten. Instead of curious five-year-olds, we're suddenly nervous 18 year-olds. In both situations, we have our whole lives ahead of us and years of experiences left to gain.

I always thought that making friends got harder as we get older. Fortunately enough, I've found that making friends at 18 is just as easy as it was at five. For me, making friends in college feels just like kindergarten.

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Thanking the People I Could Never Thank Enough

Never forget to thank the most slaytastic people in your life.

This week, I went through the experience of a nervous breakdown. Stress that had built up from the previous week built up, and I ultimately succumbed to it. What I did realize in the midst of it, though, was that I have some pretty amazing people who love me. For that, I am eternally grateful, and I wanted to show them just how much they mean to me with this article.

Thank you to the people who never once questioned me.

This week, I questioned myself a lot. My innermost workings consisted of "what could I have done better in (insert here)?" But it was in the people that I surrounded myself with that never questioned who I was or what I did. It gave me a glimmer of hope in the midst of the darkness.

Thank you to the people who had my back.

I know that I can be a lot to handle at points. But there are people who have stood by me and never once said that I was too much. In this time, they were essential for being the light that got me out of my own long tunnel. As humans, we don't exactly know why people come into our lives or for what reason, just that they do. It makes me incredibly happy to have the people that saw beyond the outside mess and were willing to still love me.

Thank you to the people who intervened and got me help when I needed it.

I didn't know it when I was in the situation, but my breaking down was a desperate cry for help. I know now that the people who did this care so deeply about me. I am fortunate enough to have those friends that pulled me aside and said they would get me the help I needed.

Thank you to my haters for being my motivators.

Only kidding, just figured the people reading this would need a break in the sappiness.

Thank you for those who did not judge me when I was a mess.

I only saw myself in the mirror once over the course of my stress induced meltdown. However, when I did look in the mirror, I saw what a hot mess I really was. For those who did not judge me, I am so forever grateful. You built me up in moments when I felt low, and I cannot thank you enough for doing that. I am so lucky to have the friends that I do.

Thank you to the people who encouraged me to take part in some much needed self care.

In this day and age, it is so essential to do things because you like to do them. For me, my self care involves watching Gilmore Girls, painting, and sitting at the piano and just playing. When I do these things, the world around me becomes less intimidating.

There is so much more I could say, but it would take more than an Odyssey article to do so. I love you all.

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10 Ways To Spend Galentine's Day

A holiday as an excuse for a girls' day? Count me in.

Coined by Leslie Knope, Amy Poehler, in the sitcom Parks and Recreations, the holiday “Galentine’s Day” has been an up and coming celebration for women around the world. Starting as fiction, the holiday is a great excuse for girls to spend time with their friends, instead of boyfriends or husbands. Here are some fun ways to spend your girls day!

1. Going out to dinner

Take a girls night out and go to your favorite restaurant together. Being in your friends’ presence is much better than stressing over Valentine's Day chaos.

2. Bringing Chocolate

Chocolate is a major part of Valentines time of the year, and it tastes better getting it from a best friend than a guy! (Plus you can eat it as soon as you get it with no shame.)

3. Taking a Road Trip

Spending time with your girls in a parked car with music blasting is the best way to forget about boys who have done you wrong. Scream-singing old Taylor Swift can do wonders!

4.Going Out

Spending the night dancing with friends is the best way to clear your head from any stress of the week.

5. Having a movie night

Bundle up with as many pillows and blankets as possible and put on some romcoms. The best possible way to forget about boys is living vicariously through Rachel McAdams. Definitely throw in some girl power movies like Legally Blonde and The Princess Diaries!

6. Getting Gifts

The best way to show your best friends how much they mean to you is to bring their favorite candy, a new book or the shirt they have been eyeing in the mall.

7. Doing Makeovers

Having a relaxing day of facials followed by friends trying to put eyelashes on each other is a great way to bond with your friends. Don’t forget the nail polish!

8. Hyping Up Girls

Whenever you have an internal compliment about how nice a girl’s shirt is or how cute her jeans are, tell her! It will make any girl’s day, especially in the spirit of Galentine’s Day.

9. Having a Shopping Spree

Bring your besties to the mall and treat yourselves! Best way to feel girl power is wearing a brand new outfit after a great makeover.

10. Spa Day

While at home facials are great for bonding, there’s nothing like a professional giving you a massage and sitting in a sauna with your girls.

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