Trust Me: How You Can Maintain A Healthy Relationship And Know When It's Time For You To Walk Away

Trust Me: How You Can Maintain A Healthy Relationship And Know When It's Time For You To Walk Away

Relationship advice from the chronically single


Welcome back! If you read my last article, you already know that romance isn't my strong suit: my personal experience with it is minimal, and the last time I "dated" a guy was in 8th grade. And yes, I'm still chronically single and handing out free relationship advice. Even so, my friends still love to come to me for advice and according to them, I'm pretty good at it. So, while I still can't manage to listen to my own suggestions, hopefully, they work for you.

Step 3: The Honeymoon Phase

Last week, I gave you tips to become a master flirt and when to DTR (define the relationship). But what happens after that? If you're successful, you'll find yourself in The Honeymoon phase. In the beginning of every relationship, everyone is still wearing rose-colored glasses, and it's hard to see the flaws in your new love. For a brief moment, everything seems perfect. The old saying proves to be true, every time: if it seems too good to be true, it probably is. This is not to say that your new boo is not an amazing person! As fun as the Honeymoon phase is, it is equally important to remember that your significant other is only human: they will make mistakes, they do have flaws, and they will almost certainly make you mad.

A Song for when you're ready to take the rose-colored glasses off

The true test of a relationship's strength is making it past the lovey-dovey honeymoon phase. Accepting your partner, flaws and all is the most important takeaway. The more comfortable you and your partner get with each other, the more honest your relationship can become.

Step 4: When Things Get Real

With honesty comes a whole new set of problems. Getting to know your partner is great, and clearly the goal of being in a relationship in the first place. While there are amazing benefits to relationships and many happy memories to be made, there is a specific issue that couples usually face.

Contrary to popular belief, opposites only attract to some extent. As society becomes more diverse, so do our relationships. Chances are, your partner is of a different, race, gender, religion, political standing, or even a combination of multiple factors. The way we all view the world (and relationships) varies. While you may expect good morning messages every day, your partner may feel they are a waste of time. This doesn't make your partner inconsiderate, but rather someone with different expectations and opinions about how a relationship should function. Differences in expectations can lead to a lot of arguments about communication, sex, and quality time. While most of these arguments can be resolved by effective communication, there are situations where you and your partner may be too different.

Step 5: Letting Go

You're not going to marry every person you date. While DTR can lead to exclusivity, it doesn't define longevity. Breakups happen and they are very common. Each breakup is different, and some are more traumatic than others. Whether you're the one doing the breaking up, or the one being broken up with, breakups suck. There are a lot of reasons to leave a relationship, and there are too many for me to go into detail. But, one of the biggest things that make breakups so hard is codependency.

Loving your partner and relying solely on your partner are very different things. When you find yourself constantly depending on your partner, it's time to take a step back. Think of it like a Venn Diagram: a healthy relationship should have a small amount of overlap. Relationships become toxic when one circle completely takes over the other. We all know how annoying and concerning it is when your friend seemingly disappears after getting into a relationship, so don't be that person. Remaining a complete individual separate from your partner can help soften the blow from a breakup, at least a little bit.

I've seen so many of my friends lose their self-confidence after a breakup and it hurts me to see. Rejection is not easy, especially when it is from someone you love. It is important to remember that you are more than your relationship status. It can be disheartening to feel like you've "failed" at love.

Take comfort knowing that you're not alone: whatever you're going through, there's bound to be at least one other person who's going through the same thing.

Hopefully, my advice helps. If not, here's a quote from my Mom that may give you more insight:

"If they were so great and it still ended this way, then imagine how much better the person who's meant for you will be." Cheesy, but effective. Thanks, Mom.

Whether you're single or taken, love is messy. Just remember that we are more than our relationship status.

Keep it cute.

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7 Signals A Girl Will Try To Send You If She Likes You As More Than A Friend

Girls do subliminal things to show you her interest in you. Pay attention to these low key signs that she is shooting her shot.


It is never easy when a girl has to fully admit her feelings to a guy she likes, so instead, she sends slight signals in hopes that he picks up on her hints.

1. She can't stop smiling at you

She is happy to talk to you and to be in your presence, the smallest things that you do make her want to smile. She can't control the happiness inside and it comes out in a great big smile. In her head, she is just thinking about how much she enjoys spending time with you and how much she likes you.

2. She hugs you with both arms

Side hugs are common, easy, and very universal. She wants to give you full body hug because to show you she feels different about you than any other guy. With a full body hug she can rest her face on your chest and this just brings the two of you closer.

3. She makes direct eye contact

Direct eye contact is always a great sign. This means she is fully aware of everything you are saying and she is completely interested.

4. She scans your face and lips

Upon talking to you, she begins to scan your face. In this moment she is appreciating your attractiveness and completely zoned out. Forget you said anything to her because she probably was not listening. If she is looking at your lips then she definitely wants a kiss.

5. She says "Oh my god, stahhhp"

The 'I'm mad at you, but I'm flirting with you' slogan. She is trying to be cute and pick a fight with you so you can two can play around. She's hoping this will lead to cracking jokes

6. She adjusts her clothing

She is fidgety when your around because she has feelings for you and is nervous. She wants to look her best with you around, so she is subconsciously fixing herself so that nothing looks bad.

7. She sends you cute snap chats

Silly, crazy, and just straight up ugly snap chats are for friends. If her selfies are , done each time, then she cares a lot about how you see her and she wants you to see her at her best. She is not always looking for a compliment, but throw one her way and you will make her day.

Pay attention to the signs a girl is sending. Her body language and behavior around all come together for an important message, she likes you! A lot.

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Ladies, Stop Trying To Teach Boys How To Be Your Man If They're Not Even Men In The First Place

It is your job to love him. But it is not your job to teach him how to love you back.


I see. this way too often, honestly it upsets me and breaks my heart. It breaks my heart when I see a girl begging her boyfriend to put her on her Snapchat story. It breaks my heart when I see a girl begging her boyfriend to get off a video game and spend time with her. It breaks my heart when I see a girl doodling on a napkin at the dinner table and her boyfriend is on his phone and hasn't even looked up at her once. These things break my heart because this girl, whoever she may be, maybe it is you? She deserves a man. What she has though, is a boy. And before you say anything, yes, there is a huge difference.

I was that girl once. I begged and begged my ex-boyfriend all the time to put me on his Snapchat story. You may be reading this and be thinking "Wow she's a little attention seeking." No, that is not it at all. A simple act of being posted about made me feel special, loved, missed at times, and served as reassurance and a word of affirmation for me. Do you want to know something silly? Maybe you've done it too. Sometimes I would do something crazy to get his attention. Something funny, and silly and random just so he would post me on his story and I wouldn't have to ask.

At the dinner table, I was that girl that while he was on his phone I was sliding him notes on a napkin saying "I love you" or "Hi" or funny jokes to get his full and undivided attention.

At home, I was the girl that used to literally throw myself at him while he was playing video games to try and get him to press pause for two minutes and pay attention to me and have a conversation with me.

You see, I was that girl. But I refuse to ever be that girl again. If you are that girl, stop what you're doing.

It is your job to love him. But it is not your job to teach him how to love you back.

There is a big difference between a boy and a man. Contrary to what society may believe most boys don't actually turn into men until they are almost 40. Scary for us girls right? But here's the kicker and to be honest it has nothing to do with age.

Any boy that is in the process of becoming a man and maturing is going to know how to treat a woman. He is not going to choose video games or his phone over you. He is going to post you everywhere all the time because he wants to show you off to the world and make you feel special. He isn't going to ever leave you wondering.

The list could really go on comparing and contrasting the differences between a boy and a man but the important ones to remember when you are in a relationship are:

1. A boy thinks "me." A man thinks "us"

2. A boy gives false promises. A man honors his commitments (one being you.)

3. A boy cares about how you look in jeans. A man cares about how you look in his future.

4. You will always wonder how a boy feels about you. You will always know how a man feels about you.

All too often I see girls in the act of this. It is almost like they are training a dog or raising a child. They order them around and become demanding when it comes to doing things that make them feel special, validated and reassured. Granted, they are doing this because their relationship is lacking something but the truth is, it shouldn't be lacking something in the first place.

You are dating a boy not a man. I hate to break that to you. I really do. It's the hardest news you'll ever receive. Why? Well because

You can't fix him, you can't teach him, and you can't change a boy into a man. They have to do it on their own

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