Now, Sigmund Freud's theories aren't exactly the most credible, but they do give insight to important psychoanalysis and society's social context. Essentially, the Madonna-Whore Complex develops in men who either see women as saint-like Madonnas or desirable prostitutes. Or to quote Freud:

"Where such men love they have no desire and where they desire they cannot love."

And while this seems rather extreme and men "can't possibly look at women this way," I argue that the Madonna-Whore complex is alive and well in the millennial generation of 2016. And while our generation can preach how "sexually free" we are, the idea of being a nice human being and a sexual human being are incompatible in everyone's "millennial" mind.

While women lie about the number of men they have slept with so that he doesn't see her as "unpure" or slut-shames her for her sexual experiences, men do the same by expressing how "nice" it is for a girl to not have had many partners.

This is the same mindset that gives women and friends alike the inability to see other woman who wear pink and pearls as a "badass." This places the "nice girl" in a stereotypical box of being innocent and not being able to express herself because of the way people perceive her. Similarly, the stereotypical, all-black-clad "badass" is seen as not having emotions or being indifferent to relationships and compassion.

The fact is we fail to acknowledge the perceptions we have on others and this ultimately takes us back to a time where women are either confined to a kitchen or work in the corporate sector. Socially, perceiving women as a saint or a "slut" is no different. We are in a time when it is no longer common to wait until marriage to be able to have a sexual partner and therefore our perceptions should change as well.

It is not feministic to be "sexually free" nor to "keep your virginity;" it is feministic to respect who you are and others around you for their choices.