By now, I am sure that most of you have heard of the Five Love Languages that tell you how you express love and how you want to be loved.
For those of you who don't know the five different types of languages here they are:
Words of Affirmation deal with someone who loves hearing positive reassurance, such as "I love you" often but they also like to say the same thing to their partner.
If you are Acts of Service then you like when people do things for you to make your life a bit easier, such as taking out the trash so you don't have to, but you also like to do things for other people.
Receiving Gifts is pretty much what it sounds like. It's when you like getting gifts and you also like giving them in return. These don't have to be big gifts, but any little token of love means a lot to you.
If your love language is Quality Time, you typically feel loved when you get to spend time alone with you partner.
Last but not least is Physical Touch, which is when you like being touched by your partner, such as hugs and having your arm rubbed. This means a lot to you and makes you feel special and loved.
If you aren't sure which one yours is you can take the quiz here.
That being said, some people think just because you have a different love language than someone else then that means that you two simply wont be compatible.
That's not true though.
Issues can occur when you do not understand each other's love language though, so it is important to talk about it and communicate to them what makes you feel loves so that they know that and that they can effectively do that for you.
Like if your love language is physical touch and your partner hasn't touched you all night, then you may be left upset. Your partner isn't a mind reader though so they won't know that that is bothering you.
So you need to tell them that and have a conversation about it.
Once you are your partner sit down and talk about what each of your love language is then the next step is to ask each other how we can show that we love them in that language.
So then you both can start catering to each other's love language needs, so you both can feel satisfied and loved.
For example, if your love language is quality time and your partners is words of affirmation, make sure that you take time out of your day to tell them how special they are to you. You could even leave little notes around for them so that they are constantly reminded. In turn they could plan a day for the two of you to spend time together so that you feel loved. Then both of your needs are being met and your different love languages do not define the relationship.
The bottom line is that you definitely can have different love languages and still be compatible, you just need to talk it out with each other and make sure that you are being cognizant of what your partner wants so that you can make sure they feel loved.
