Love At First Sight Is Only Lust At First Sight
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Sorry To Break Your Heart, But 'Love At First Sight' Isn't Real

Call me a cynic, but true love isn't purely based on physical appearance.

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According to Wikipedia, "Love at first sight is a personal experience and a common trope in literature: a person, character, or speaker feels an instant, extreme, and ultimately long-lasting romantic attraction for a stranger upon the first sight of that stranger. Described by poets and critics since the emergence of ancient Greece, falling in love at first sight has become one of the most common tropes in Western fiction."

Many claim to feel love at first sight upon meeting their significant other or even a person he or she believes to be in love with from solely gazing upon them.

Is it love at first sight or just an attraction that leads to love?

The "love" you feel when meeting someone you are attracted to is based off looks only and the person's sex appeal. They are desirable to you.

Love at first sight is implying that you feel love at the precise moment of viewing an individual.

The reason you decide to pursue an individual is that you find them attractive and wish to get to know them, personally. It is all that is visible to you at the time.

Furthermore, you are only allowed to the see the parts of themselves that they are letting you see of them, once you meet the one you wish to engage with based on their outer appearance. It is a show, for both parties. You want them, and vice-versa, to be impressed. It's habit of humans to hide bad qualities in order to get to know a person better especially that you are attracted to.

You have "fallen in love" with how someone presents himself or herself when you feel love at first sight. You can only know what you have heard from others, as well. You cannot truly know a person from one encounter.

Love at first sight is not true love because true love is not based on outer appearance. You need to build a real connection.

There can be a physical attraction that later leads to love and a deeper connection between two individuals, but sincere love cannot be purely founded off someone's sex appeal. Therefore, you cannot have authentic love at first sight.

Loving someone wholly and faithfully requires more than a physical allure. It involves emotional linking and more.

Love at first sight gives you the ideal version of the person you believe you are in love with. You have an image in your head of him or her with certain standards.

An individual cannot say, "It was love at first sight" when he/she has fallen in love with the person he/she is currently dating. It sounds nice and many people love to say that they truly fell in love at first sight.

This is untruthful. The individual found their partner attractive and desirable from the beginning and fell in love with their personality over time.

You must grow with a person to experience true love in all areas: mentally, physically and spiritually.

Love cannot occur solely based off of a first sight.

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