With Valentine's Day right around the corner, your other-half is probably on your mind a little extra these days, especially if there are many miles between you. Whether you're about to start a long distance relationship or need a refresher, these tips are a recipe for success.
1. Pre-set your intentions.
I won't sugar coat it: long distance relationships are not for the faint of heart. Although the holidays and special occasions are particularly lonely without your S.O., it's the little things that will remind you of them the most. Maybe you'll smell their perfume, or hear a song on the radio that you danced to at prom. In these moments, you might question whether the heartache is worth it. Avoid these doubts by setting intentions for your relationship early. It'll be easier to focus on the moments you'll spend together instead of the time you've spent apart.
2. Combine a cup of commitment, two scoops of attention, and a dash of sensitivity.
At the start of your long distance relationship, make sure you and your S.O. are on the same page when it comes to commitment, and continue to clarify throughout. A little attention can go a long way, even if it means asking about their day or texting "I love you" at 3 a.m. Finally, be sensitive to your partner's needs. Whether they need more space or want to hear from you more often, be responsive and aware of their wishes.
3. When something boils over.....
...let sit. Misunderstandings are bound to happen, especially when most of your communication is digital. Texts and social media posts are often misinterpreted, and it can be easy to get in a fight over the phone when you can't see your partner's face. Give your S.O. the space they need to cool off, but don't leave them on "read." Make sure they know if you want to make things right again.
4. Add communication to taste.
Communication is key. No matter how busy your schedule is, there's always time to shoot your partner a text. When you're free, call them, or watch them smile on Skype. Also, be prepared to spend your weekends on the road. You might assume you'll only see your S.O. on breaks, but you'll likely want to be with them more often than that.
5. Enjoy!
This is the most important step: let absence make your heart grow fonder. Enjoy it when you're on your own, but look forward to every late-night Facetime call.
