9 Little Things That Matter In Relationships

9 Little Things That Matter In Relationships

Its the little things that take up the most room in our heart.

“Wow this the best relationship I’ve ever been in, where has he been my whole life!” Chances are you’ve said this before…Have you ever been in a relationship that seemed exceptional, and made you wonder why this one was so much better than the past ones?

Yes, you are dating someone different than before but chances are this new relationship that seems so beautiful has a lot of the little things that you might not have gotten before. Sometimes when someone does a lot of the little things, you don’t know how to handle it because you’ve never been treated like this before. It's okay, learn to accept the little things! The little things in a relationship are what matter because these are the things that show they care.

Here are a few of the little things that can make a relationship healthy!

1. Write notes

Writing notes seems the really old school, I know but writing someone a note is special. It means they took time out of their day to sit down and think about what they wanted to say to you. Writing someone a note is also a good reminder of how much you care about that person. Not to mention notes can be kept and be reread, so they can read it when they need to be reminded of how much you mean to them.

2. Send them something that made you think of them

If you’re scrolling through Facebook and see something that makes you think of that special someone, send it to them! Think about how this makes you feel. Doesn’t it make you feel special to know that someone is thinking about you while they’re going through their day? Send them a song that you think reminds you of them. These few little things can make someone’s day go from okay to great!

3. Good morning text

Isn’t it such a special feeling when you wake up to a text from the one that special someone? Text that special someone in the morning so they know you’re thinking about them in the morning. Give them a reason to start their day with a smile. Say something like “Good morning Cutie; I hope your day is as bright as your smile” It’s okay if it’s cheesy, cheesily is good! Cheesy makes people laugh!

4. Surprise them

Surprises are fun! You don’t have to make a big deal of it and make it a huge surprise; you can do something small. The little things mean just as much as the big things! Write your special someone a note and leave it somewhere they least expect. Leave it on their vehicle while they’re at work or school. This will make them smile when they leave. This shows you mean something to them because you went out of your way to do something to make them happy. Surprise them when yourself when you know they need it most. Just swing by to say hey and hug them. Sometimes a hug can make that special someone feel so much better. Especially because this shows, you care and will be there for them no matter what.

5. Show interest in what they are doing

If they are doing something, you know nothing about asking questions. Tell the person you like you think what they are doing is cool. Ask them if there is any way you can help them. This is something straightforward that makes people feel like you care. Even if you honestly don’t care when you learn more about it, you might care about it more. We all enjoy it when people show interest in what we are doing!

6. Hug Them Tight

Hug them tight! Something about a tight hug is very personable. This tight squeeze means you support them and you are there for them. Not to mention how nice tight hug feel! It’s almost as if they are putting back the pieces of your broken heart. Tight hugs are a way of saying I care a lot about you. Remember it's not about what you say, it's about what you do!

7. Be Supportive

This may seem like common sense, but not everyone thinks about it. When someone you like is having a hard time, support them! Support every choice in life they make. The choices they make are the right thing at that moment in time. They may have made that choice because of something you know nothing about. Since you are their significant other, be there for them. Talk to them!

8. Do something they enjoy

Relationships are about the give and take rule right? Sometimes we do things our significant other likes to make them happy. We need to do things they enjoy, and then we learn to appreciate them. Sometimes our significant others expose us to the new stuff, and these new things become the things we love.

9. Open up

I know this might seem like a hard thing to do, but when you do, you open a new window of opportunity. You allow that other person to begin to see deeper into who you are. This allows them to uncover more about why you are the way you are, and why you chose to do some things you do. Opening up to someone is tough, so when someone does open up to you, they’re telling you they trust you. They see that you will be there to support their past and help them through to the future.

In the end, these are all little things that help take a relationship from good to exceptional. These are little ways to show the person you like how much you care. If you aren’t a very affectionate person, this helps you show how much you care because you are talking little step to better the relationship. Remember people show how much they care about someone in lots of different ways. You don’t need to make a scene every time you want to show someone you care. These little things help show you care.


Be the reason someone smiles! People will remember how you make them feel! Make sure when people remember how you made them feel you've done them feel good!

Take the next step today, do the little things in a relationship and make someone feel special. In the end, you’ll feel good because you've done them happy!

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An Open Letter To My Boyfriend's Mom

A simple thank you is not enough.

Your son and I have been dating a while now and I just wanted to thank you for everything.

Wow, where do I start? Ever since the day your son brought me into your home you have shown me nothing but kindness. I have not one negative thought about you and I am truly thankful for that. I first and foremost want to thank you for welcoming me with open arms. There are horror stories of mothers resenting their son's girlfriends and I am blessed there is no resentment or harsh feelings.

Thank you for treating me like one of your children, with so much love but knowing exactly when to tease me.

Thank you for sticking up for me when your son teases me, even though I know it’s all in good fun it's always comforting knowing you have someone by your side.

Thank you for raising a man who respects women and knows how to take responsibility of mistakes and not a boy who is immature and doesn’t take responsibility.

Thank you for always including me in family affairs, I may not be blood family but you do everything you can to make sure I feel like I am.

Thank you for letting me make memories with your family.

There is nothing I value more in this world then memories with friends and family and I am thankful you want and are willing to include me in yours. I have so much to thank you for my thoughts keep running together.

The most important thing I have to thank you for is for trusting me with your son. I know how precious and valuable he is and I won't break his heart. I will do everything I can to make him happy. This means more than you could ever imagine and I promise I will never break your trust.

The second most important thing I must thank you for is for accepting me for who I am. Never have you ever wished I looked like another girl or acted like another girl. You simply love and care for me and that’s all I could ever ask. Every person in this world is a unique different person and understanding that means a lot.

The third most important thing I must thank you is teaching me how to one day in the future treat a potential girlfriend that I may interact with as a mother. I am not a mother, but I one day plan to be. If I ever have a son it is because of how you treated me that I am able to be a humble loving mother to this new face that could one day walk into my door. How you have treated me has taught me how I should one day be in the future and I thank you for that.

This may seem all over the place but that’s how my brain gets when I try and thank you for everything you have done for me. It’s all so much and even the little things are so important so I promise my scattered thoughts are all with good intentions and not meant to bombard you. I just want to get the idea across to you that you are important and special to me and everything you do does not go unnoticed.


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I’d Much Rather Celebrate Valentine’s Day With My Single Girlfriends Than Any Guy

Bring on the pizza and ice cream because Valentine's Day is Girls Only this year.


Being single during any time of the year is difficult, but it can be even harder with Valentine's Day quickly approaching. People either love it or love to hate it. It's a day filled with dramatic romantic gestures, carefully planned dates, and an abundance of roses and chocolates. Well, at least for some it is. The pressure to have a "Valentine" as well as have the perfect evening is so high that in my option it completely takes the fun out of the day. So this Valentine's Day, I won't be stressing over the perfect outfit, restaurant or date. Instead, I'll be deciding if I should have another slice of pizza while my girlfriends try to figure out which cheesy rom-com we should watch next.

I don't hate Valentine's Day, I actually think it's really romantic. I think it's great that some people find happiness in grand gestures and extravagant presents. When I feel about someone strongly enough, I'm sure I'd do the same, but as of right now I don't. I don't want to be someone valentine or worry about finding the perfect gift. I want to focus on myself and just have a fun night with my girls. We worry so much about what everyone has to say about the things we do that often times we don't make any decisions for ourselves. Be a little selfish and do only what you want. Order too much food, break out the wine, and enjoy a stress-free night with the people that mean the most to you.

You will find me on the couch with my sorority sisters most likely catching up on "The Bachelor" or ruining our diets with dollar store sweets. And yes, I know there's an unofficial holiday already called, "Galentine's Day" (which I will be celebrating too) that's for ladies celebrating ladies. Who says you can't do it two nights in a row? Who says that Valentine's Day has to be a day spent with a romantic partner?

This is me telling you to take this day to have some fun and ignore the pressures society (and ourselves) put on ourselves constantly. Surround yourself with the people who support you; the ones who stick around through it all and love you unconditionally. If you still want to stay in the festive mood, you can exchange valentines with your friends and treat each other with chocolate hearts. And if you want to celebrate Valentine's Day with your significant other, go ahead, I'm not stopping you.

So, no matter what Valentine's Day for you is, celebrate it however you want. Dress up to the nines and have the night of your life. Stay in, order takeout, and fall asleep watching a movie. Hang out with your girlfriends, guy friends, or both! It doesn't matter how you do Valentine's Day, but rather who you spend it with.

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