Life Is By No Means A Race So Go At Your Own Pace And You Will Make It

Life Is By No Means A Race So Go At Your Own Pace And You Will Make It

You'll get to where you're supposed to go regardless of how fast others get to their places.

The last couple of weeks I have come across a problem. Not necessarily a problem that can be defined, but a problem that is definitely present. I'm constantly looking at others' social media accounts and seeing all that they've accomplished just to put down my phone and feel defeated myself.

Seeing everyone else's accomplishments such as summer internships, job interviews, and even just posting picture and tweet after tweet of their "perfect" life has started to make me feel a little bad about not having those things myself. While I know can't avoid social media altogether, especially since I plan on being a social media coordinator in the future, but I have been using it a little less lately to get out of my head.

I've taken some time to focus on just living my life. I'm 20 years old, there's no need to constantly worry about what the future holds. I know that if I work hard I'll get to where I need to be. I'll land the internship I'm supposed to, I'll graduate whether it's on time or not. I'll get a job after graduation. I will live my own little perfect life. I'm always worried that my friends or family members will completely pass me in the left lane in this "life race."

It's taken me some years to realize it, but life is not a race. If it was we'd all be a lot more exhausted then we already are. Years from now I don't want to remember myself in college freaking out about my future but want to remember all of the great times I had with the people I love.

It doesn't matter what age you graduate or when you get into graduate school. It doesn't matter when you get engaged or married. It doesn't matter if all your friends are having kids one day and you aren't at that exact same time.

We all have our own timelines and it's crucial that we understand that. I'm not saying that nobody should ever be sad that something they really want isn't happening for them, but to remember that things do happen when they're supposed to. I sometimes think that if you stress too much about a certain event that it doesn't happen.

So remember that your life is just that, your own. It's not your sister's or brother's or best friend's or cousin's or whoever's. It's YOURS. You'll figure out what you need to. You'll make money. You'll have a career, but most importantly you'll end up how and where you should, hopefully, happy happy happy.

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22 New Things That I Want To Try Now That I'm 22

A bucket list for my 22nd year.


"I don't know about you but I'm feelin' 22," I have waited 6 long years to sing that and actually be 22! Now 22 doesn't seem like a big deal to people because you can't do anything that you couldn't do before and you're still super young. But I'm determined to make my 22nd year a year filled with new adventures and new experiences. So here's to 22.

1. Go sky diving.

What's crazier than jumping out of a plane? (Although I'll probably try indoor skydiving first.)

2. Go cliff jumping/diving.

I must be the only Rhode Islander who hasn't gone to Jamestown and jumped off a cliff.

3. Ride in a hor air balloon.

Up, up and away.

4. Try out skiing.

Cash me in the next Olympics, how bout dat.

5. Try out snow boarding.

Shawn White, I'm coming for you.

6. Go bungee jumping.

Because at least this time I'll be attached to something.

7. Go to Portugal.

I mean I'm Portuguese so I have to go at some point, right?

8. Go to Cape Verde.

Once again, I'm Cape Verdean so I have to go.

9. Vist one of the seven wonders of the world.

I mean hey, Egypt's on, my bucket list.

10. Try out surfing.

It's only natural that somebody from the Ocean State knows how to surf.

11. Learn a new langauge.

Because my little bit of Portuguese, Spanish and Latin isn't cutting it anymore.

12. Travel to a state that I've never been to before.

Fun fact: I've only been to 17 of the 50 states.

13. Go paddle boarding.

Pretty boring but I've never done it.

14. Go scuba diving.

I'm from the Ocean State so I guess I should see the ocean up close and personal.

15. Learn how to line dance.

There's actually a barn in my state that does line dancing, so this one will definitely get crossed off.

16. Go kayaking.

All this water around me and I haven't done a lot of the water activites.

17. Stay the night in a haunted hotel room.

I bet if I got my friends to come with me, it would be like the Suite Life of Zach and Cody episode, minus the ghost coming out of the wall but you never know.

18. Get my palms read.

Because who doesn't want to know their future.

19. Go to a medium.

Like a medium that can communicate with people that have died.

20. Take a helicopter ride.

Air plane: check Helicopter:....

21. Sleep under the stars.

Because sleeping in a tent is more like glamping than camping

22. Just to try new things in my everyday life.

Whether it's trying a new restaurant, getting something different at my usual restaurants, changing my usual style, going on the scary rides at amusement parks, and bringing things I used to do back into my life now.

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I Decided To Wake Up An Hour Earlier, And The Results Were Fantastic

My mind was definitely in a healthier place and my body felt more productive throughout the day.


Quite possibly the worst sound to ever enter my ears is my alarm clock in the morning. Regardless of the fact that I woke up at 6 AM most of my life for school, soccer practice, or work, somehow my body never adjusted to naturally get up and tackle the day with enthusiasm. So, I've learned to force myself to do so.

I heard on the radio once (yes, kids, there was once a thing that played music called the radio) that people are generally happier when they wake up earlier and get a jumpstart on their day. I remember the exact moment I heard this, because it was 6:30 AM and I was sleepily driving to the train station with a hot coffee in my hand that I wanted to chuck at the radio. I was already exhausted. How was waking up even earlier supposed to make me magically feel better?

Intrigued, though, I, of course, decided to try it out. I was going to wake up 15 minutes earlier and collect my thoughts before starting my day. The first day, everything went as planned. I felt great, and mentally clearer. However, by day 3, 4, 5 - I found myself snoozing through that alarm just like before and feeling just as grumpy and tired as I used to.

It wasn't until I realized what this person meant as "early" that I felt a true change. I took a leap of faith and started waking up an hour earlier than I usually do. Although it was extremely difficult, I started to see results quicker. My mind was definitely in a healthier place and my body felt more productive throughout the day. I'm not saying I never felt tired, because certainly, my body isn't always thrilled about waking up so early, but I did feel more productive and useful during the day.

In order to keep my routine, I had to give myself something to look forward to during that hour before my day started.

So, I began to make a routine:

1. DO NOT hit snooze. You must get up

2. Drink a tall glass of lemon water (This wakes you up and helps your body feel refreshed), then have your coffee.

3. Read (I'm a Christian and like to do my daily devotional in the morning to help jumpstart my day).

4. Journal (This helps me reflect on how I'm feeling and helps me set small goals for the day).

5. Or… Workout (I know it's hard to just jump up out of bed and decide to hit the gym, but once you do, you will feel AMAZING).

Just these small, simple changes have made such a huge difference in my day. Try it out - it'll be worth it... I promise!

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