Learn To Appreciate The Lessons And Blessings In Your Life

Learn To Appreciate The Lessons And Blessings In Your Life

Dear Past, Thank you for all the lessons... Dear Future, I am ready.

We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason.

There's a popular phrase I learned growing up that has really hit home with me the last couple years: We meet everyone for a reason. Either they’re a lesson or a blessing.

As of recently, my best friend has reminded me of this phrase that reopened my eyes to the path my life was taking. If people don't put in the effort for you, are they really worth your time? The answer is no. There is a reason for every person in your life, some people are brought to you to teach you a lesson and some people are brought to you as a blessing from God. Whether it is a significant other, maybe someone who you considered a friend, or perhaps it's a complete stranger. No matter who it is, each of these people can impact your life. They may be someone who ends up breaking your heart, but sometimes you have to look past that and ask yourself what they might have brought to your life? Maybe they were a lesson of what you don't want in a relationship or maybe they were a blessing who dragged you out of a depression you were slowly falling into.

Sometime ago, I lay in my bed thinking my heart was broken and sobbing to my mom who told me a similar phrase, “everything happens for a reason...learn from it…and move on”. This has reminded me of all the lessons that have walked in and out of my life and all the blessings that have walked in and left a significant imprint on my heart. After all, God doesn't give you anything you're not strong enough to handle.

As of recently, I have realized there is nothing truer than this simple phrase. In reality, there are two types of people in this world, so never fall prey to those there only to teach you a lesson. Yes, you will learn some important and valuable things from them being a part of your life, but don't let these people define you. If your boyfriend broke up with you, don't waste your tears on him. If they want you in their lives, they will prove it to you. If they don't, don't take it personal, it just validates that they aren't meant to be a part of your life. Unfortunately that happens, but you must realize that eventually you will find that someone special that will put in the effort for you and makes you feel like the only girl in the world. So don't waste your time crying on some stupid boy, live your life and enjoy this time you're given to find yourself and explore things you may or may not like. If you do this, eventually you will meet the man of your dreams. It is important to realize that it might not happen if you're waiting for it though. Things happen when you least expect them to. So if life throws you a curveball, sit on the pitch and hit it over the right field fence out of the park. If it's a friend that has recently walked out of your life, don't dwell on why they left. Move on and look at all the people who have walked into your life and stayed. Appreciate all the special people you currently have in your life.

Life is a rollercoaster and the people in it make it worth the ride, but make sure you're putting in the effort for the people who truly deserve it and have proven to be there for you when you have needed them most. Take what you've learned from the lessons and move on, but make sure you appreciate all the blessings. “Always keep your head up, because if it’s down you won’t be able to see the blessings that have been placed in your life.”

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20 Things That Will Make You Happy

Is there anything better than a book and a cup of tea?

Every once in a while, we could all use a little extra dose of happiness. Sometimes you get it by talking to a friend, maybe saying a prayer, or participating in an activity that you enjoy. There is also another way that you can remind yourself of all the blessings that life has to offer and that is by simply making a list. With the semester well-underway at this point, it is safe to say that most of us are slipping back into that school routine, which can leave us walking around like zombies just trying to make it from one day to the next. Whenever I feel myself being overtaken by this state I like to remind myself of all the good and happy things there are in this world.

1. Warm, sunny days

I know it's winter... but the thought it nice!

2. A good book.

Is there anything better than a book and a cup of tea?

3. Dancing in your kitchen.

It fixes everything!

4. Positive people.

It is nice to know someone is always cheering you on.

5. Spending time outdoors.

Being out in nature is one of the best forms of therapy!

6. City lights.

We've all witnessed that view of a breathtaking city that is lit up at night!

7. It's 2018!

Maybe you love the energy that surrounds a new year, and maybe you stay away from anything that has to do with the "new year, new you" mentality. Regardless, it is a new year and you here!

8. Singing your favorite song... in the car... with the windows down.

Anyone else love to sing The Proclaimer's I'm Gonna Be (500 Miles) like they on How I Met Your Mother?

9. Funny YouTube videos.

We all have that one video that never fails to leave us in tears!

10. A good quote.

There are lots of them, but I'm talking about the one that speaks directly to you.

11. A killer music playlist!

It has all your favorite jams.

12. Stargazing.

Grab a blanket and count how many shooting stars you see.

13. A delicious cup of coffee

Without a doubt this is the best way to start your morning!

14. Unplugging from the rest of the world.

Disconnect from the online world. Watch the sunset, enjoy the sunshine, talk to your friends in person.

15. Snow covered mountains.

One of the prettiest sights in nature!

16. Cake.

One of life's greatest blessings.

17. A cozy blanket.

One of the best feelings is getting home after a long day and snuggling up on the couch in your favorite blanket watching your favorite movie.

18. A bouquet of flowers.

They brighten up a room.

19. A cheeseburger and fries.

It's everyone's favorite food.

20. Your friends.

These are the people who are always by your side.


Need a little more happiness? Check out Part 1 and Part 2 of this series!
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I Asked 10 People What Their Biggest Regret In Life Is

When you bring peace to your past, you can move forward with your future.

As a lover of life, it is important to establish why reflecting on regret is beneficial for the mind and soul. Part of becoming a happy, fulfilled person is accepting both your past and how it changed you into the person you are now. True self-acceptance shows in the moment you realize peace cannot co-exist with war.

Happiness can only exist in acceptance.


I asked 10 people what their biggest regret in life is and how it has affected them.

Disclaimer: names left out for privacy reasons.

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1.

"There was a time in my life where I stopped taking care of myself and giving myself insulin and I basically tried to die; because I couldn't do it anymore."


2.

"Taking the good things in life for granted. Because even though we're still super young and it seems like life's gonna go on forever, people can go away at any time."


3.

"My parents and I did not get along through my first years of high school, and not having a relationship with them is my biggest regret."


4.

"Not treating others with kindness. I went through a long period of my life where I was just unhappy with my environment and conditions and who I was as a person. I would expel all of these negative feelings onto other people by being rude and snappy, and it pushed people away from me. I realized that it was not a constructive way to handle things and that being uplifting, kind, and positive was better. That was the turning point in who I am and what made me into the person I am today."


5.

"Not working hard enough throughout the summer for my sports tryouts, and then not making the team."


6.

"Being so careless with other people's feelings and emotions, and not caring about how my actions would change their lives and relationships with others. If I could just start the year over I would."


7.

"Falling for someone that will never picture the love that I picture for us, and never having the strength to admit it to anyone except for myself."


8.

"Having a relationship in high school because it took too much time away from my real friends and the people who were important to me."


9.

"Lying to myself about why I was happy. I would convince myself that I was happy for the right reason, and then later learn that I was making everything seem like I wanted it to be. I was in a relationship for four months and I always told myself I was happy. As you can imagine, it was the attention I craved. I wanted nothing to do with him."


10.

"Not working as hard as I do now, earlier in life. I realized that I have to work for the things I want."

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Regret is undoubtedly a unique experience for everyone. Different moments, different memories, and different people can spark an image in your mind that can haunt you forever. It is important to reflect and be honest with yourself in order to overcome personal tragedies and grow into the person you desire.

I try to look at my personal regrets as something beautiful. Something that will shape me into a better version of who I am, and not ruin my self image of who I am. It hurts to let go of regret, but sometimes it hurts even more to hold on.

Accept what is, let go of what was, and have faith in what will be.

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