Learn To Appreciate The Lessons And Blessings In Your Life

Learn To Appreciate The Lessons And Blessings In Your Life

Dear Past, Thank you for all the lessons... Dear Future, I am ready.
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We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason.

There's a popular phrase I learned growing up that has really hit home with me the last couple years: We meet everyone for a reason. Either they’re a lesson or a blessing.

As of recently, my best friend has reminded me of this phrase that reopened my eyes to the path my life was taking. If people don't put in the effort for you, are they really worth your time? The answer is no. There is a reason for every person in your life, some people are brought to you to teach you a lesson and some people are brought to you as a blessing from God. Whether it is a significant other, maybe someone who you considered a friend, or perhaps it's a complete stranger. No matter who it is, each of these people can impact your life. They may be someone who ends up breaking your heart, but sometimes you have to look past that and ask yourself what they might have brought to your life? Maybe they were a lesson of what you don't want in a relationship or maybe they were a blessing who dragged you out of a depression you were slowly falling into.

Sometime ago, I lay in my bed thinking my heart was broken and sobbing to my mom who told me a similar phrase, “everything happens for a reason...learn from it…and move on”. This has reminded me of all the lessons that have walked in and out of my life and all the blessings that have walked in and left a significant imprint on my heart. After all, God doesn't give you anything you're not strong enough to handle.

As of recently, I have realized there is nothing truer than this simple phrase. In reality, there are two types of people in this world, so never fall prey to those there only to teach you a lesson. Yes, you will learn some important and valuable things from them being a part of your life, but don't let these people define you. If your boyfriend broke up with you, don't waste your tears on him. If they want you in their lives, they will prove it to you. If they don't, don't take it personal, it just validates that they aren't meant to be a part of your life. Unfortunately that happens, but you must realize that eventually you will find that someone special that will put in the effort for you and makes you feel like the only girl in the world. So don't waste your time crying on some stupid boy, live your life and enjoy this time you're given to find yourself and explore things you may or may not like. If you do this, eventually you will meet the man of your dreams. It is important to realize that it might not happen if you're waiting for it though. Things happen when you least expect them to. So if life throws you a curveball, sit on the pitch and hit it over the right field fence out of the park. If it's a friend that has recently walked out of your life, don't dwell on why they left. Move on and look at all the people who have walked into your life and stayed. Appreciate all the special people you currently have in your life.

Life is a rollercoaster and the people in it make it worth the ride, but make sure you're putting in the effort for the people who truly deserve it and have proven to be there for you when you have needed them most. Take what you've learned from the lessons and move on, but make sure you appreciate all the blessings. “Always keep your head up, because if it’s down you won’t be able to see the blessings that have been placed in your life.”

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A Love Letter To The Girl Who Cares Too Much About Everyone But Herself

You, the girl with a heart full of love and no place big enough to store it all.

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Our generation is so caught up in this notion that it's "cool" not to care about anything or anyone. I know you've tried to do just that.

I'm sure there was a brief moment where you genuinely believed you were capable of not caring, especially since you convinced everyone around you that you didn't. But that just isn't true, is it? Don't be ashamed of this, don't let anyone ridicule you for having emotions.

After everything life has put you through, you have still remained soft.

This is what makes you, you. This is what makes you beautiful. You care so deeply and love so boldly and it is incredible, never let the world take this from you.

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You are the girl who will give and give and give until you have absolutely nothing left. Some may see this as a weakness, an inconvenience, the perfect excuse to walk all over you. I know you try to make sense of it all, why someone you cared so much about would treat you the way they did.

You'll make excuses for them, rationalize it and turn it all around on yourself.

You'll tell yourself that maybe just maybe they will change even though you know deep down they won't. You gave them everything you had and it still feels as if they took it all and ran. When this happens, remind yourself that you are not a reflection of those who cannot love you. The way that people treat you does not define who you are. Tell yourself this every day, over and over until it sticks. Remind yourself that you are gold, darling, and sometimes they will prefer silver and that is OK.

I know you feel guilty when you have to say no to something, I know you feel like you are letting everyone you love down when you do. Listen to me, it is not your responsibility to tend to everyone else's feelings all the time. By all means, treat their feelings with care, but remember it is not the end of the world when you cannot help them right away.

Remember that it is OK to say no.

You don't have to take care of everyone else all the time. Sometimes it's OK to say no to lunch with your friends and just stay home in bed to watch Netflix when you need a minute for yourself. I know sometimes this is much easier said than done because you are worried about letting other people down, but please give it a try.

With all of this, please remember that you matter. Do not be afraid to take a step back and focus on yourself. You owe yourself the same kind of love and patience and kindness and everything that you have given everyone else. It is OK to think about and put yourself first. Do not feel guilty for taking care of yourself. You are so incredibly loved even when it doesn't feel like it, please always remember that. You cannot fill others up when your own cup is empty. Take care of yourself.

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College Is NOT The Place To Be A Perfectionist, In Fact, It's Nearly Impossible

Accept it and move on.

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Life is hard for a perfectionist, and it only gets harder if it keeps itself up.

There is such little room for a perfectionist to mess up, and college is full of mess ups. That's why no one should expect themselves to keep entertaining the thought of perfection past high school. You can always chase it and never reach it, or you can work as hard as you can and get exactly where you want to be.

I was a perfectionist my entire life.

People always criticized me for it and said it would come back to bite me later. Of course, I never believed them because it worked out in my favor. I was getting where I needed to be and all the self-discipline is what I assumed got me there. Fast-forwarding to the present, they were right. It did come back to bite me. Actually, it is biting me.

I was setting myself up for failure all that time and I ignored it. I was only after perfection up until college because it wasn't that hard to obtain. I didn't have to study and I had time for my friends. But then things got harder out of nowhere and I was not prepared at all to shift the standards I had for myself.

As a perfectionist, I constantly compared myself to other people and made sure I was doing better than the next guy, or at least just as well. That didn't work for long. I stopped competing with others because I learned that no one is worth beating if they aren't even chasing the same goal. And that helped me learn to quit competing against myself, too, because we're on the same team.

Freshman year of college, I almost pulled it off. The perfectionist in me nearly won. Then I started reasoning with myself and I figured out I had limits to what I could handle and I stopped pushing myself past them.

There are sacrifices that have to be made in reaching success.

College is like the triangle you can only pick two things from. On it might be grades, free time, and work, and you have to give up free time to have a job and good grades. A perfectionist will try so hard to get all three, and they may be able to at first. But it catches up with you.

Then there are other times where you're lucky to get one piece of the triangle. It's a game of going back and forth and testing patience in the pursuit of greatness.

I may end up with an "A" in a class because I only studied for that one exam, and in return, I might fail a quiz that same week. It would have bothered me to not evenly distribute my time and to not do perfectly on all of it, but it's actually OK. And the job that may take up way too much of my time will look really good on my resume and the time I didn't have to enjoy myself won't matter later.

And as bad as they seem at one particular moment, sacrifices are worth it in the end. Some things just carry more weight than others and the further I've gotten, the more I've figured it out. And I just try to remember that when I reach the point where I've gotten exactly where I wanted to be, no one is going to ever know what I had to give up to get there. And there's even a chance I won't remember either.

As long as I'm actually trying as hard as I can and I learn from every hiccup and mistake, things will work out the way they should.

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