Learn To Appreciate The Lessons And Blessings In Your Life

Learn To Appreciate The Lessons And Blessings In Your Life

Dear Past, Thank you for all the lessons... Dear Future, I am ready.

We don’t meet people by accident. They are meant to cross our path for a reason.

There's a popular phrase I learned growing up that has really hit home with me the last couple years: We meet everyone for a reason. Either they’re a lesson or a blessing.

As of recently, my best friend has reminded me of this phrase that reopened my eyes to the path my life was taking. If people don't put in the effort for you, are they really worth your time? The answer is no. There is a reason for every person in your life, some people are brought to you to teach you a lesson and some people are brought to you as a blessing from God. Whether it is a significant other, maybe someone who you considered a friend, or perhaps it's a complete stranger. No matter who it is, each of these people can impact your life. They may be someone who ends up breaking your heart, but sometimes you have to look past that and ask yourself what they might have brought to your life? Maybe they were a lesson of what you don't want in a relationship or maybe they were a blessing who dragged you out of a depression you were slowly falling into.

Sometime ago, I lay in my bed thinking my heart was broken and sobbing to my mom who told me a similar phrase, “everything happens for a reason...learn from it…and move on”. This has reminded me of all the lessons that have walked in and out of my life and all the blessings that have walked in and left a significant imprint on my heart. After all, God doesn't give you anything you're not strong enough to handle.

As of recently, I have realized there is nothing truer than this simple phrase. In reality, there are two types of people in this world, so never fall prey to those there only to teach you a lesson. Yes, you will learn some important and valuable things from them being a part of your life, but don't let these people define you. If your boyfriend broke up with you, don't waste your tears on him. If they want you in their lives, they will prove it to you. If they don't, don't take it personal, it just validates that they aren't meant to be a part of your life. Unfortunately that happens, but you must realize that eventually you will find that someone special that will put in the effort for you and makes you feel like the only girl in the world. So don't waste your time crying on some stupid boy, live your life and enjoy this time you're given to find yourself and explore things you may or may not like. If you do this, eventually you will meet the man of your dreams. It is important to realize that it might not happen if you're waiting for it though. Things happen when you least expect them to. So if life throws you a curveball, sit on the pitch and hit it over the right field fence out of the park. If it's a friend that has recently walked out of your life, don't dwell on why they left. Move on and look at all the people who have walked into your life and stayed. Appreciate all the special people you currently have in your life.

Life is a rollercoaster and the people in it make it worth the ride, but make sure you're putting in the effort for the people who truly deserve it and have proven to be there for you when you have needed them most. Take what you've learned from the lessons and move on, but make sure you appreciate all the blessings. “Always keep your head up, because if it’s down you won’t be able to see the blessings that have been placed in your life.”

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13 Gross Things Girls Do That Boys Don't Know About

From a girl, about girls.

There's always talk about how gross boys are all the time, it's now time to talk about how gross maybe even how much more disgusting girls can be. It may not even be disgusting, but just weird, but we are girls. What can we say?

1. Gorilla legs.

It's not that we don't want to...okay, that was a lie. Every girl can agree that they only shave during bathing suit season when you're wearing a dress, or when you're gonna get it on. Basically, If she shaves her legs you're special.

2. When did I last wash this bra again?

We wear the same exact bra, for days, and weeks, and who knows for how long.

3. It's not just the bra's, it's the pants too.

We wear jeans and leggings like twenty times before we think about washing them.

4. We don't wash our hair every day.

Because unwashed hair is the best styling hair. Also because looking good takes too much work.

5. We are always picking at our faces, especially pimples.

As soon as we walk by a mirror, its a must. Car mirrors are awesome to pop those suckers and pluck rampant eyebrow hairs. We pop pimples like its our job.

6. We will live in your clothes.

If you somehow let your significant other or friend wear your sweatshirt you're never getting it back... and she's never taking it off. Girls will wear that sh*t until your scent is gone because we love it.

7. We poop.

Believe it or not... it happens to us too. Women don't make it as much as a show as boys do. We hide it from you and will hold it until you're not around. And you've probably received a lot of selfies on the toilet.

8. The dreaded monthly gift.

Probably the most disgusting thing to ever happen to the human body. But everyone knows about menstruating, but most guys don't understand the other things that come along with it, like the cramps that bring period farts and the nasty bowel movements and blood clots.

9. Finding hair from our head in our butt cheeks.

Yeah, it's a thing. Your head hair crawls it's way down there occasionally.

10. We smell ourselves a lot.

We are super conscious about how we smell...especially down there.

11. We let it fly.

We will hold in our farts from you, but as soon as we are alone... that's a different story. You better hope we don't get too comfortable around you too quick.

12. Sometimes we have to improvise.

Sometimes mother nature likes to come when we aren't ready, or prepared with the supplies. There are numerous occasions where we start bleeding and have to create this bundle of toilet paper and just shove it down there.

13. Looking at our panties and trying to figure out what came out.

Sometimes you just don't know for sure.

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Grades K-12: What We WEREN'T Taught

They never taught the most important lessons.

In my years of schooling, I've gone through preschool all the way into graduating my senior year. Yet, in all those years of education, I was never taught to love myself and why it was so important to do so.

In middle school, my friends and I were picked on frequently for our interests, our styles, who we were dating, and just overall who we were as people. One afternoon, we had a schoolwide JDRF diabetes walk. One of my best friends and her girlfriend were holding hands, while another friend and I had a conversation between the four of us.

A half hour into the walk, one of our peers came up to my friend and her girlfriend and began harassing her. They were asking inappropriate questions like, "How do you have sex?", or "Don't you feel disgusting?" They then slapped the third friend's butt.

We went inside and went directly to the principal. To avoid naming any names, we'll call her Dr. A. Being that Dr. A was a lesbian herself, with children, we thought that she would be more understanding. She certainly was not.

We explained the situation to her, to which she replied with, "It's your fault; you can't expect people to not make fun of you when you have two girls holding hands. You should have known better." We then explained the situation of the third friend being inappropriately slapped, to which she replied again, "She should have known better as well."

That was the day I was taught that keeping the other students appeased was more important than our safety.

In high school, I dated someone who didn't go to school with us and lost a lot of friends in the process. From sophomore year up until the day I graduated, I came to school crying. I left school crying. I cried during school. I stopped participating in school clubs, and I started going to the library instead of lunch.

No one said anything.

I never had anyone ask if I was okay. I was never asked if I needed help. I was in a toxic relationship for two years and never was I asked if I needed someone. Getting out of that relationship was the best decision I could have ever made for myself.

That was the time I was taught that minding your own business was more important than the well-being of others.

Throughout our schooling, we as women are ridiculed by the way that we dress and the way that we act. We are pulled out of class because our shoulders are showing or because our bra straps are showing. God forbid, we wouldn't want anyone to know that women wear bras, while the male students are walking around schools with their pants around their ankles.

We are constantly taught that keeping THEM focused is more important than OUR education.

I spent years trying to find who I am, spiritually and physically. I spent years trying to remove the bullet like insults from my skin that had shot at me for years. Yet, it was a lesson that I had to learn by myself.

No one in my days of education taught me that I was important. No one in school taught my friends and I that it was okay to defend ourselves. We were taught to think identically, to memorize the material on the next text. Sit up straight, never speak out of turn, raise your hand, and never question what you're being told.

Never in our years of education were we taught how to love ourselves.

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