Dear Darling,
I'm not sure what has encouraged you to make this commitment. Perhaps it was a vow to God, a promise to yourself or even a contract with your mom. Just know that you are not alone. Sometimes you feel like you are because society tells you that sex brings happiness and you should be happy and live life to the fullest before you settle down to become a wife and a mother. If we look at reality though, sex before marriage really only brings chaos. Chaos in the heart and the mind of a young girl. We can see that boyfriends come and go, but husbands are lifelong. Sure, divorce happens, but it is not meant to if "until death do us part" really applies. Keep reminding yourself to wait. Wait to share that experience with the life long rather than the come and go. If God is the reason why you are doing this, He will abundantly bless your marriage. If you are doing this for you, you will enjoy your wedding night because you have an open mind and few regrets. If you are doing this so that you may keep your word, you will come out of this as a confident woman who knows that she does not have to live by the standards of the world in order to be happy.
If you are already dating the man that you are fairly certain that you will marry, still stay strong in your decision. Girls seek assurance and bask in it when it is given to them. There is no assurance like having him place a ring on your finger while saying, "With this ring, I thee wed." This type of assurance does not allow a break up to be an option. The man that is willing to marry you is giving you an unconditional love, while a man that is only willing to date you may be offering a conditional love instead. Keep this thought in your mind constantly. Trust in the fact that unconditional love does exist, but it exists solely in the bond of husband and wife, not boyfriend and girlfriend.
My purity ring has an inscription that states, "True love waits." There is so much truth behind just those three words. Your true love will wait patiently to lay eyes on you after weeks of not being able to see one another face to face, rather than giving up because missing the one you adore is too hard. Your true love will wait for a time that is convenient so that the both of you can make an important decision together, rather than hastily making it for himself. Your true love will be willing to wait with you until the day you are dressed in white, letting him know that you made this decision for him so that he could have all of you, a pure you.
Sincerely,
A Girl Just Like You
