Dear Friend Who Cut Off Me Off,

Hey dude, remember me?

I’m the girl who used to be your best friend. The one you’d go on adventures with, confide in and be with all the time. You came to me for advice on school, girls, family life and when you needed ramen. We were inseparable. Then you got a girlfriend and at first, I was happy for you but then as time went on, I started seeing less and less of you.

It turns out that your girlfriend sees me as a threat. We both know I’m not that it’s possible for guys and girls to be just friends and nothing else, but I guess she thought otherwise. Eventually, she cut you off from seeing me completely. I still remember you telling me that we needed to talk and that you can’t hang out with me anymore because your girl doesn’t like it.

It hurt, man.

That really, really struck me hard. We spent so much time together and made so many memories and in an instant, all of it was gone because she doesn’t trust you hanging around me. Heck, I even went out of my way to tell her that I respect your relationship and that I would never do anything out of line because, and I will emphasize it again, WE ARE JUST FRIENDS. It’s absurd and I don’t understand it.

I hope you’re doing well, I really do. I hope you’re going to your classes and getting good grades. I hope you’re eating well, sleeping well and enjoying your life. Your life with her. I also hope you think of me occasionally. I wonder if you even miss me and all of the fun times we had together. I’ve made a lot of new friends and I know you see it when I post a picture with them. All I see on your feed is more of her. Don’t get me wrong! I’m glad that you found someone but I remember when we were the dynamic duo and I was the one in your stories and posts.

You called me once a while back and poured out your emotions. I felt relieved that you still saw me as a close confidant and a friend that you could come talk to but a couple days later and you told me we couldn’t talk anymore. I felt stupid thinking that our friendship was going to go back to the way it used to be. Radio silence for months and then I saw you by yourself the other day for the first time in a long time. And you treated me differently. You were standoffish and cold towards me. Again, I was hurt.

I miss you and I sincerely hope that she’s worth it; that she’s worth giving up meaningful friendships to be with her and I hope that she begins to realize that I’m not a threat. That I just want my friend back and nothing more than that. I hope you’re both genuinely happy with each other and that you’re in a healthy, thriving relationship that will take on the test of time. If you ever need someone, I hope you know that I will always be here for you no matter what the circumstances are. Feel free to come back into my life whenever you want--the door is wide open, you needn’t have to knock. I miss you dude...hope you feel the same way.