You don't really know me, but I've heard plenty of stories about you. I watched helplessly as you dragged my beautiful, kind, smart, outgoing sister down with you. I know she chose you because she thought she could fix you. She's like me; we like to be challenged. I watched you hurt her numerous times and I held her as she cried and then I listened while she made excuses for you. She defended you while you were so thoughtless. But you didn't deserve her excuses, her defense, even her time. Did it make you feel good to tear someone down, to be a bully?

So don't text her and tell her you miss her again because you don't. Don't tell her you're sorry because you're not. Your, "I miss you," meant you've cycled through your other options and now you've come back to her. When you miss someone your heart hurts, you want to be with them but you want them to be happy. Your, "I'm sorry," is just a band aid on a much deeper wound. When you're sorry you genuinely feel bad, you make and effort to change the behavior that hurt someone in the first place. Your words are meaningless without actions to back them up. So if you don't have back up, don't waste your breath with empty words.

Have you ever stopped to think that there are thousands of other ways to spend your time and energy than tearing others down, lying, spreading rumors and ruining friendships? Maybe read a good book, volunteer, go for a run, play soccer, literally anything. I bet it'll make you much happier to be doing something productive and worthwhile with your time and then maybe it'll be easier for you to treat others with respect.

You didn't recognize her worth. You see, my sister is intelligent, generous, funny, talented, beautiful and so much more. And you couldn't see it. One day you're going to look back and you're going to regret how you treated her. But it's going to be too late to say, "I'm sorry," and, "I miss you." She deserves someone who sees, values and celebrates her worth. Someone who holds her up high instead of pulling her down. I feel sorry for you because you don't realize the potential you could have if you took a step back and reevaluated your words and actions. You didn't win your game. My sister has become smarter, wiser, stronger and more beautiful because of this learning experience. But I pray that one day someone doesn't treat your daughter the way that you treated my little sister and the other beautiful girls.