Friend Zone" -a situation in which a friendship exists between two people, one of whom had an un-reciprocated romantic or sexual interest in the other. We've all been there. It hurts so much to be close to someone who you really like while knowing that he/she doesn't and probably will never like you back in the same way as you do. It sucks but there is one thing you need to understand: it is no ones fault.
People get so mad for being put in the friend zone. Especially those who try to be so nice in order to get the other person to be attracted to them, aka The Nice Guys. Even though I understand why they would be upset, I can never like the term "friend zone." Before you call a girl a b**** for friend zoning a nice guy, please be considerate and think about how rude you would sound.
We hear that it always happens to the nice guys because they do so much to be liked by the girls they like. I'm not sure if that really makes a person a nice guy because to me, not being an asshole purely in hopes of attention and/or sex makes a person an asshole. It's not a bad thing to be nice to be liked, but the real nice guys would just be nice to be nice and would not get mad when they are rejected.
"How dare she doesn't have romantic feelings for me after all this time and effort I've spent on her?" "How dare she finds interest in someone else when this nice guy has been such a great friend!" Well, girls are not something you earn with your kindness. Kindness is wonderful but it doesn't make you unique or special because anyone can be nice if they choose to. Your personality including your sense of humor, experiences, what you like and dislike is what makes you unique and special, and is is what girls will like you for; not just how nice you are to her. In other words, she can't like you if she doesn't find your personality emotionally attractive no matter how nice you are. Just because a guy likes a girl and does so much for her, that does not give any kind of claim to her. She is not a property and has the right to say "no."
The worst thing about the word "friend zone" is that it makes girls feel like they did something wrong. Once I liked a guy as a friend and he wanted more. I've made it clear to him by telling him I wasn't interested but we stayed friends because he said that it was okay. Apparently it was not because kept trying to get more from me and later he told me with some frustration that I was "friend zoning" him. The entire time I thought we were hanging out and enjoying each other's company, he was just trying to think how to get what he wanted. I felt so disrespected but at the same time, I felt like I was the one who did something wrong. Maybe I led him on somehow even though I had told him I was not interested. Just because a girl is nice, happy and friendly in front of a guy, doesn't mean that she likes the guy. She is not doing all that to lead him but she is probably just a nice, happy and friendly person.
It sucks to be in the friend zone, and it also sucks to have someone in your friend zone. To avoid this situation, girls should never flirt purposely to take advantage of guys' kindness if they have no intention of doing anything with the guys they're flirting with. Also they should try to make it clear that they are not interested in a romantic or sexual way earlier in their friendship. Girls can't expect guys to always make the first move and complain when guys do it by saying "how dare he wants me sexually."
Guys should know that no means no, not "try harder." Girls are not heartless creatures and just saying no is difficult and awkward; girls mean it so please respect them when they say "no." Guys should not expect girls to like them back just because they have been nice to the girls. Just be nice to be nice rather than be nice to get something.
If someone complains that he/she is in your friend zone, feel free to move them down into your enemy zone. It wasn't your fault that they feel sad and they absolutely had no right to make you feel bad for it. Please be careful before using the term friend zone and remember to respect. Two people liking each other is a miracle; they picked each other out of thousands of people. Just because that miracle didn't happen between you and a specific someone, doesn't mean it was his/her fault. So stop being so salty, be open to new opportunities and maybe then you will find what you have been looking for.
