In today's day and age, our idea of dating is unacceptable. When did we as a generation lower our standards for the way we should be treated in relationships? As Millennials we have made this idea of “talking” widely accepted, and because of this, we are losing sight of what it means to have a real relationship.
Personally, I am trying to figure out when “Netflix and Chill” become more of an acceptable date rather than taking your significant other out to dinner and a movie. I want more than to chill with you, I want to get to know you. My goal is to understand who you are and why you are that way. Tell me your goals and aspirations, tell me what you want to do with your life. Explain to me why you think Lord Of The Rings is better than Harry Potter (which it is not). Describe to me where you see yourself in five or ten years. I don’t want to just chill with you, I want more than that.
If you want to talk to me, then sending a text at 10 p.m. saying “wya” is not acceptable. Do not think that “sliding in my DMs” is the proper way to get my attention. As a matter of fact, you’re proving to me that you don’t deserve my attention at all. There are 24 hours in the day and you are going to try and reach out to me at a time such as ten? I don’t think so.
I don’t feel that we, as women, ask a lot when all we want is your attention and respect. I have never heard another woman say they expect a $200 dinner date at some fancy restaurant. More often than not I hear girls say that if the guy they were dating were to buy them some chicken nuggets and a rose their heart would melt. It’s not that we expect material things, nor do we expect anything, we just like to be reminded that you think about us during your day and not at 10 pm when you’re lonely.
It is time that this generation takes feelings seriously. No girl wants to be “talking” to some guy who is “talking” to three other girls. We must show respect for someone were interested in from the very beginning. Invest time and effort into each other like you should, aim to grow together.
As a generation, we must realize that there is much more than chillin' with the person we are talking too. There is so much to do out there; visit a zoo, grab some coffee, go to an ice cream shop. Don’t settle for less, and don’t be afraid to raise your standards. Expect doors to be opened for you, expect a man to walk you to your door after a date. Don’t expect materialistic things, expect sentimental things.
With that said, you must be appreciative. Appreciate those men and women out there who believe that relationships are meaningful. We must not let the act of dating fade away. It is up to us to bring back chivalry and sincerity in relationships. As of right now, our idea of dating is nowhere near perfect. So how about we try and bring back traditional dating? Let’s be a generation of more than “Netflix and Chill.”
