Learning To Live For Yourself

Learning To Live For Yourself

Worrying less about others could be the best thing you ever do.

Life changing sentence warning: If you are not living for yourself, stop what you are doing and start. This statement may seem slightly ambiguous, so let me explain what I mean. For 20 years of my life, I was living for everyone else around me except my self. When I say this, I mean that I put the happiness of others in front of my own well-being. Being a kind and caring person who is nice to the people around them is completely different from what I am saying. I would drive myself clinically insane in hopes that being nice to people and doing whatever they asked would make them like me. Let me tell you, this is not a good approach to gaining friends. The only thing that you will ever get out of being that way is a broken heart and years of being taken advantage of.

The day I finally realized that I needed to start living for myself was the best day of my life. It was almost like a cloud of oppression was hanging over my head. Then I said to myself, "I don't care what anyone thinks, I am going to do what I want, starting now." This involved worrying less about how people felt about my actions, changing my career path and major and just having more fun. I absolutely do not mean that you begin to be a complete jerk. I simply mean that you should worry less about other people and start taking care of yourself. If you are bending over backwards in your own life in hopes that you can make someone else happier, there is something wrong. Finding a happy medium between pleasing others and yourself is such an important thing to do, but it is not easy.

I looked at myself in the mirror and told myself that I needed to start doing things that I really wanted to do, regardless of what my friends and family thought about it. I knew this could cause some backlash. If your friends and family aren't happy that you are happy, that is a serious problem that they need to address for themselves. Let me give you an example. The first two years of my college career I wanted to go to law school because I thought it was something that would appease my family and help me pay off the student loans that they always talked about. This was always my plan, until one day I looked in the mirror and realized that I was completely miserable with the idea of being a lawyer. I sat down and started to read in hopes that it would calm me down and settle my mind. Little did I know that in this book I would find the rest of my life.

I continued to tear through books until it finally dawned on me; I want to be a writer. For the first time in my life, I felt happy with a decision that I had made on my own. It wasn't because of monetary reasons. It wasn't because it was what my friends and family thought I should do. It was simply because I loved it. After that day, I began writing and couldn't stop. Ideas began to consume my mind and many class periods were spent writing down short story ideas and poetry. It was almost like my brain was finally activated for its true purpose after years of neglect. After that day, I didn't care if that wasn't what people thought I should do. I really do get their concerns. Yes, most likely I won't make it. I might be poor and have to work manual labor jobs, but if it means me being happy, well that simply can never be bought.

I strongly urge you to think introspectively. Look in the mirror and ask yourself, "Am I truly happy with what I plan on doing in the future, and is it really what I want to do?" It is never too late to pursue something that makes you truly happy.

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8 Reasons Why My Dad Is the Most Important Man In My Life

Forever my number one guy.

Growing up, there's been one consistent man I can always count on, my father. In any aspect of my life, my dad has always been there, showing me unconditional love and respect every day. No matter what, I know that my dad will always be the most important man in my life for many reasons.

1. He has always been there.

Literally. From the day I was born until today, I have never not been able to count on my dad to be there for me, uplift me and be the best dad he can be.

2. He learned to adapt and suffer through girly trends to make me happy.

I'm sure when my dad was younger and pictured his future, he didn't think about the Barbie pretend pageants, dressing up as a princess, perfecting my pigtails and enduring other countless girly events. My dad never turned me down when I wanted to play a game, no matter what and was always willing to help me pick out cute outfits and do my hair before preschool.

3. He sends the cutest texts.

Random text messages since I have gotten my own cell phone have always come my way from my dad. Those randoms "I love you so much" and "I am so proud of you" never fail to make me smile, and I can always count on my dad for an adorable text message when I'm feeling down.

4. He taught me how to be brave.

When I needed to learn how to swim, he threw me in the pool. When I needed to learn how to ride a bike, he went alongside me and made sure I didn't fall too badly. When I needed to learn how to drive, he was there next to me, making sure I didn't crash.

5. He encourages me to best the best I can be.

My dad sees the best in me, no matter how much I fail. He's always there to support me and turn my failures into successes. He can sit on the phone with me for hours, talking future career stuff and listening to me lay out my future plans and goals. He wants the absolute best for me, and no is never an option, he is always willing to do whatever it takes to get me where I need to be.

6. He gets sentimental way too often, but it's cute.

Whether you're sitting down at the kitchen table, reminiscing about your childhood, or that one song comes on that your dad insists you will dance to together on your wedding day, your dad's emotions often come out in the cutest possible way, forever reminding you how loved you are.

7. He supports you, emotionally and financially.

Need to vent about a guy in your life that isn't treating you well? My dad is there. Need some extra cash to help fund spring break? He's there for that, too.

8. He shows me how I should be treated.

Yes, my dad treats me like a princess, and I don't expect every guy I meet to wait on me hand and foot, but I do expect respect, and that's exactly what my dad showed I deserve. From the way he loves, admires, and respects me, he shows me that there are guys out there who will one day come along and treat me like that. My dad always advises me to not put up with less than I deserve and assures me that the right guy will come along one day.

For these reasons and more, my dad will forever be my No. 1 man. I love you!

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Being Sick In College Is A Real Struggle

Being sick in college is definitely not as fun as having a sick day in middle school or high school.


Something that I have had to deal with multiple times these past two semesters is being sick while in school. It can be a real pain especially depending on what type of sickness it is. I have had tonsillitis, mono, and I'm pretty sure I also had the flu.

Being at school and away from home can make being sick worse because there is nobody to take of you such as your parents. Another thing is having to make the decision to get the rest that your body needs in order to feel better or staying on top of your assignments to avoid falling behind. My parents will always tell me to get a good night's sleep so my body can feel better the next day. However, sometimes I will feel more stress if my work isn't getting done and I feel like I'm falling behind and leaving things to get done in the last minute.

Currently, I am sick now and the past few days haven't been easy, but I still attended all my classes so I wouldn't miss any material or assignments that were given. I usually end up feeling the worst at night when trying to fall asleep, and by that time the doctors are not present at the student health center. Even though my health is important I usually don't like taking too much time out of my day to go to the health center to see a doctor. Some days I don't really have much free time before the evening.

I don't believe I have been over-exerting myself, but I don't want to just stay in my bed all day and sleep, even though that may be what is best for me. Most professors will be understanding if I email them and provide them a doctor's note as well, but I also just got back from a conference where I had to miss two days of classes next week.

I have been trying to keep hydrated so that way my body can fight the sickness. Also, I have been told if you stay hydrated you can flush the virus out of your body quicker.

Eating can also be a pain when you have a sore throat, for the past couple of days I have tried to have some soup in order to help. Most meals I would have to force myself to eat something of substance in order to give my body some type of energy in order to get through the day. It's also never fun not being able to breathe out of your nostrils. If it wasn't my nose being stuffed, then it would be constantly runny so there was no winning that battle.

Looking back, I probably should have done a bit more work over spring break in order to get ahead in the case that something like this would happen. I wanted my break to be exactly that, a break. After not being home for a few months I just wanted some time off to relax.

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