The importance of contentment with loneliness alone is well overlooked in our society. There’s reasoning for this and most of it is stems from the movies and love songs that are on constant rerun on the TV and radio. They all seem so beautiful and make a person want to find love more than anything. Love is beautiful and vivid. The appeal is easily seen by anyone alive. However, before a person gets in a serious relationship or falls in love, it is essential that they feel content with loneliness as well. This may seem ridiculous and some kind of torture, but it will save you more heartbreak than is necessary. You will thank yourself later if you find comfort in being alone.
Of course, I do not mean being alone as in secluding yourself from your close ones and the world. That is unhealthy in its own nature. What I am trying to say is to get comfortable with not having a significant other by your side at all times and to stop searching for your person. Begin to search for inner peace with being on your own, and divulge in the feeling of independence and journey. Use this time to improve on yourself and explore new hobbies. Use this time to make stronger bonds with your friends and go wherever you wish to go. Find what makes you happy and way to uplift yourself without the help of another person, and uplift your friends and others while you do so. Find yourself, and find comfort with just being by yourself.
This may all seem a little absurd because you can also do this is a relationship. Of course, I agree on this too because I am doing that now. However, I first found comfort in solitude before finding my partner. The reasoning is, you will never know if you are looking for someone to fill a space, just because you’re uncomfortable being alone, or because it’s real. No one gets into a relationship knowing that they are just filling the space, but it happens more than you can imagine. You settle for someone because they make you comfortable. It seems like you like them a lot (maybe you do), but by settling and rushing into things you are setting yourself up for some future issues that could have been avoided.
By learning to feel comfort in being on your own, you will know that you are not merely with someone because of settling. You will not subconsciously settle because you will not feel discomfort. You will feel content with yourself. Then if you meet someone who you are interested in, you will know it is true. By doing this, you will set way for a healthier and less dependent relationship. Obviously, you will be slightly dependent for affection and love but not for all the wrong reasons.
Giving yourself time to learn to be OK with being alone and teaching yourself it's OK to not have a partner, will give you the benefit of avoiding unnecessary heartbreak and arguments. It will give you and your partner and stronger relationship, with security and power. It took me a long time to figure this out myself, but after I gave myself the time to do so, I am happier than ever. Becoming content with loneliness with ensure that your feelings are 100 percent sincere and save you a lot of tears. Take the time, and work on you. Please stop searching for someone to fill the hole, and instead build yourself bigger to fill your own hole. Be your own missing piece and once you accomplish that, find your complimentary piece. You will thank yourself later.
